What do I need to do differently (reboot)

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I posted asking about the same thing previously but the topic got deleted. I only wanted some posts pertaining to the redpill removed, not the whole topic.

I wonder what I need to do differently in regards to finding a girlfriend. 2017 is almost over and I can't bear 2018 going the same way. I am 29 years old and I should atleast have a long term girlfriend but I don't even date. I go through life feeling alienated from society like someone else is writing my life story for me and it's not in my favor.

You're not going to like this:

But I still believe you have to place the "pursuit of a girlfriend" a little lower on your priority list.

Especially in my early 20's, I was desperate, and didn't know how to approach girls. Girls sensed that I was desperate; hence, they were turned off to me.

When I stopped "the pursuit of a girlfriend" around age 23 or so, I started doing much better.

I'd rather be told what you told me instead of some other things certain posters have told me.

The desperation came about from seeing couples nearly everywhere I went, hearing others talk about their relationships, reading stories online (Some guy would say his girlfriend introduced him to an anime or new music), and seeing my family members constantly couple up while life was passing me by and I was always in my room alone or walking around my neighborhood alone.

K I give up. Literally have offered you the chance to solve all your issues and you reject it. You don't have to become hardcore redpill. But if you want a step by step guide on getting a gf that's the only reliable place on a sense.

Have you played kh? Kingdom hearts.

I know what the redpill mentality is like. I've seen many of those with that mentality say they think women are "walking cum dumpsters" and they are more angry about not being "real playahs" or "Chads" instead of wanting loving relationships. They just want women to perform oral sex on command for them. I would look stupid trying to be a redpiller. I am not aggressive at all and I don't want to do "God's work".

No, and I am not interested.

You're a decent bloke. Good on you, I have respect for you.

Ah, it is so good to see you back Marknis, I hope none of my words were a reason for you to close your eyes and shake your head.

Did you see the Fergal Sharkey reference about his song A Good Heart? It made me think of you whilst driving.

I am still going to ask you to list some nice things about you if that is ok?

Just a thought, but do you think it would be easier for you to find new friends than it is to find a girlfriend? If so then try focusing on that for a while; if you can make new friends then it could help you with finding a girlfriend in long term. They could introduce you to a girl they know or you might find it more comfortable to go to places you normally wouldn't go with them and you might meet girls in those places.

I know you don't want to put the issue aside for the time being, but you could still look for a girlfriend while looking for friends.

No. No. No.

K let's break down your points and then im giving up on you. Its one thing not to like the redpill because it's women's inability to use reason in certain areas of their life. It's another to just not no anything.

Women are not walking cum dumpsters. The belief is women get bored of the same old same old faster than me. So it's better to have multiple girls you interact with even if it's not sexual in order to avoid picking a single girl really quick because you hit it off early. Therefore they suggest spin plates aka have sex with many women on the regular to A get good at it and B lower your need for sex from women so you arnt so blinded by it.

Redpill men have an anger phase and you will too. It comes from the belief that women and society will say you can never understand a woman. Well I have news for you redpill has figured it out for the most part. It's not pretty but it's a result of society NOT being open about women. For example until a alcoholic admits they have a problem they can't get help. Women believe their behaviors towards men are special, amplified by their feelings, amplified by friends/society telling them to go ahead. This causes them to struggle with certain concepts like true self reflection, and the inability to control and reject feelings for reason. You would be upset to if a girl you were willing to devote your life to in a sense told you she wanted a guy just like you but kept complaining to you about her terrible boyfriend who was a grade A dick. Say one thing do another aka say you want pill but stay with Chad.

They do NOT want sex on demand at all. And they WANT relationships but they learn when you want it that bad you will typically end up with a girl who doesn't want it as much as you.

Redpill is like being a black mage in a sense.
You have incredible power over a majority of women even some woman here would fall for it EASILY. IF YOU CHOOSE to abuse it and lash out by treating when as dumpsters that's on you. If you use it to be better and actually improve and learn what makes women tick initially so you can form attraction which makes them want to get to know you then ok.

Your choice I don't care. But as a female I'm tired of your f*****g suicide, I want a girlfriend, woe is me posts. It's annoying and takes away from these threads. You want the truth no one here is gonna tell you or sly?

Here it is, If you want it so bad be willing to WORK for it. You may not like it but that's how society is these days. Women have some odd standards as a result of them not being shamed, or widely known and If you want to date one or pursue a relationship with one that actually isn't 1 out a million then this is what it's going to take. Self improvement, learning to read women a bit more and taking charge of your freaking life.

Now if you want some help navigating, through the toxic parts of redpill I got you covered just tell me in response to this. Otherwise I'm gonna tell you to go to r incel, and post there so you can here the echo and feel at home.

Jeez you got the estrogen in me fuming.

I think making a list of things you like about yourself is a good place to start.

I am not brainwashed culturally to hate LGBT people and people of religions outside mainstream Christianity. I can see these people as fellow humans than "others" simply because they aren't straight or call themselves Christians.

I strive to be authentic and search for the truth. I don't think I should give up my individuality just because following the crowd will be easier. It might be easier but you have to give up your individuality to do so.

I don't think it's strange to follow your passions or expand your knowledge. I'd rather learn about something interesting and new instead of the regurgitated celebrity garbage that is perpetuated in mainstream society.

I just hate how my individuality hasn't payed off for me. I get pushed into being something I am not by my family and society. If the year ends with me still single, I will snap.

It's not that easy to find a person that is life compatible. People are way too different. Also I kind of feel the same way. Just look at my posts. I don't give a ****.

I made a few comments on a PPR thread, now I can’t get out of this Objectivism phase I’m currently stuck in. Argh...

With all your talk on individuality, I think you might benefit from Ayn Rand. She stressed individualism. Practically deified it. She formulated the idea of rational self-interest. The short paragraph version is we all must look after ourselves, first and foremost. But we also have to take care of others and reward the individuality of others, else there’s no incentive for others to take care of us.

I’m more a fan of Dale Carnegie and some other motivational authors that I’ve mentioned to you before. Ayn Rand is a bit more elegant and sophisticated in describing her egoism and ethics. People put Rand down a lot because they don’t really understand her. In that regard, we all have a little bit in common, don’t you think?

I agree with Ragnahawk, that it is not easy finding someone life compatible.

I am sat here wondering where you might find people who are similar to yourself?

Personally, I find your personal qualities very interesting and attractive in a fellow human being.

When I am looking for romance, I need a certain kind mental compatibility otherwise I know I will get fed up.

Next time I go looking for possible boyfriend I will probably join the local philosophy group or maybe a gardening group. Why? Because these are things I enjoy and if I don't find anyone compatible then as least I would have enjoyed my time out. I have also tried online dating and this has worked for me although it can be exhausting with many weeks of online chat before agreeing to a date. I think that perhaps it is slightly different here in the U.K.

Also, I don't thing you are giving yourself much time to find a girlfriend - this in itself puts more pressure on you. I wish I could give you a magic potion or wave a wand.

Date him!! !! !! ! heheheh

Why can't you take a hint? Your posts do not help me at all. I honestly don't want any advice from you, especially after you attacked me for rejecting the Bible Belt and you sided with two people who attacked me as well. Just stop it. I don't want to go back to how I was before and I am sick of people like you shoving your faith down my throat.



My older brother's friends who visited his home a while ago are both married and have children. I knew them back when I used to go to private school but they had their dreams come true while mine continue to remain out of my reach. I am almost 30 so I feel like my time is either running out or it already has but I can't see if that's true.