TheSpectrum wrote:
I'll stop the snarky comments for a sec and chime in here.
When a person writes a dating profile and writes about their self they are doing exactly that. Unless they states so in their profile it is unreasonable to assume someone wants to date their doppelganger.
Someone could be thin but like curves. Or nerdy but likes someone who brings them out of their shell.
Opposites attract is not a cliche without reason. Add t that people aren't mind readers, plus their sense of self worth vary from person to person. That is rarely within our control and isn't always determined by logic.
If you don't want to date a woman you would class as obese or fat then just say you like a girl that knows how to look after herself or wouldn't mind a gym buddy. See, that's not so hard is it!
TL;DR - To reduce the number of people messaging you you don't want, tell the people what you
do want.
Because if you put down "I only date thin women" then cue a barrel load of hate mail and zero invites to chat from anybody.
These women will send hate messages and tell you things like "your nothing special yourself!" or "No wonder your alone". It's as though they believe you think your gods gift to women (when I don't think that all) and they believe all healthy weight females are special.
It maybe sour grapes and mate guarding.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mate_guarding_in_humansBy shaming men that do like thin women, they are guarding the women that are thin whilst also trying to make themselves feel better about being fat... or a former fatty. I dunno. Females are complex.
Besides, I don't just work out for dating. I had a health problem last year and needed statins and thyroid medication.