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Kiki1256
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07 Dec 2017, 10:06 pm

So freshman year of college has been rough at first, but now that I’m done with first semester I’m feeling a lot better. I was so stressed out that I lost the ability to feel attracted...all I wanted was food (I eat when I’m stressed, not the best habit but I’m working on it!)

Now my passion is coming back. I’m thinking less about food and more about music, art, and intellectual interests, but more than any of those things, BOYS! I have a boyfriend now, but at the same time I felt depressed for so many months that these feelings of attraction—not just to my boyfriend, but to lots of guys—overwhelm me. I catch myself being sweet and polite to my male classmates. What should I do?

By the way, I’m not complaining. Thinking too much about guys is WAY better than being depressed and binge eating!



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07 Dec 2017, 10:08 pm

Um what can I say.
You're in your best years and you have hormones.

I guess it's more a case of how much you value your current relationship and personal image on campus.
It is advisable to maintain the warm personality you demonstrate to your fellow students but draw a clear line between just being nice and flirting.


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08 Dec 2017, 9:37 am

TheSpectrum wrote:
Um what can I say.
You're in your best years and you have hormones.

I guess it's more a case of how much you value your current relationship and personal image on campus.
It is advisable to maintain the warm personality you demonstrate to your fellow students but draw a clear line between just being nice and flirting.


You’re right. I do have a reputation for being overly polite sometimes, so hopefully it doesn’t look like flirting.



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08 Dec 2017, 4:23 pm

Or you can sleep with all of them.

But that would grant you a not very nice label there.



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12 Dec 2017, 10:00 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Or you can sleep with all of them.

But that would grant you a not very nice label there.


College is probably the best time/place to be those labels, it's not as bad to be one there as it is the life stages before and after.


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12 Dec 2017, 10:13 am

^ She's like most males honestly, I wish there were much more women like her.



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12 Dec 2017, 6:39 pm

modernmax wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Or you can sleep with all of them.

But that would grant you a not very nice label there.


College is probably the best time/place to be those labels, it's not as bad to be one there as it is the life stages before and after.

Not from a guys view I guess as sluts mean you might get sex. From a woman’s it’s never good except women who get off on being one.



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12 Dec 2017, 6:40 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ She's like most males honestly, I wish there were much more women like her.

World probably be a happier place if more women found most men attractive.



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13 Dec 2017, 5:56 am

Kiki1256 wrote:
So freshman year of college has been rough at first, but now that I’m done with first semester I’m feeling a lot better. I was so stressed out that I lost the ability to feel attracted...all I wanted was food (I eat when I’m stressed, not the best habit but I’m working on it!)

Now my passion is coming back. I’m thinking less about food and more about music, art, and intellectual interests, but more than any of those things, BOYS! I have a boyfriend now, but at the same time I felt depressed for so many months that these feelings of attraction—not just to my boyfriend, but to lots of guys—overwhelm me. I catch myself being sweet and polite to my male classmates. What should I do?

By the way, I’m not complaining. Thinking too much about guys is WAY better than being depressed and binge eating!

This is me but with girls. I've already got a girlfriend but I've been chatting to this other girl who seems to like me and it's so hard to choose :x Girls, I like all of them!


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13 Dec 2017, 6:04 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Kiki1256 wrote:
So freshman year of college has been rough at first, but now that I’m done with first semester I’m feeling a lot better. I was so stressed out that I lost the ability to feel attracted...all I wanted was food (I eat when I’m stressed, not the best habit but I’m working on it!)

Now my passion is coming back. I’m thinking less about food and more about music, art, and intellectual interests, but more than any of those things, BOYS! I have a boyfriend now, but at the same time I felt depressed for so many months that these feelings of attraction—not just to my boyfriend, but to lots of guys—overwhelm me. I catch myself being sweet and polite to my male classmates. What should I do?

By the way, I’m not complaining. Thinking too much about guys is WAY better than being depressed and binge eating!

This is me but with girls. I've already got a girlfriend but I've been chatting to this other girl who seems to like me and it's so hard to choose :x Girls, I like all of them!

You're a man, it happens. Just don't put yourself in a situation where you can cheat if you don't want to hurt your girlfriend...unless you have a bi girl then threesome city.



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13 Dec 2017, 7:05 am

Grimnir wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Kiki1256 wrote:
So freshman year of college has been rough at first, but now that I’m done with first semester I’m feeling a lot better. I was so stressed out that I lost the ability to feel attracted...all I wanted was food (I eat when I’m stressed, not the best habit but I’m working on it!)

Now my passion is coming back. I’m thinking less about food and more about music, art, and intellectual interests, but more than any of those things, BOYS! I have a boyfriend now, but at the same time I felt depressed for so many months that these feelings of attraction—not just to my boyfriend, but to lots of guys—overwhelm me. I catch myself being sweet and polite to my male classmates. What should I do?

By the way, I’m not complaining. Thinking too much about guys is WAY better than being depressed and binge eating!

This is me but with girls. I've already got a girlfriend but I've been chatting to this other girl who seems to like me and it's so hard to choose :x Girls, I like all of them!

You're a man, it happens. Just don't put yourself in a situation where you can cheat if you don't want to hurt your girlfriend...unless you have a bi girl then threesome city.

I'll behave but it's hard. I'll always wonder what might have been.


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13 Dec 2017, 3:09 pm

I don’t find it so hard to be loyal