Verification of a theory

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I have a theory that a girl at school is trying to flirt with me. I'm not sure, but it really seems like it. She's always trying to be in my field of vision, but she never looks at me or talks to me, except once I caught her staring at me. Have I finally figured out some NTs body language, or am I being delusional?

I have no clue, I don't know when people are just nice or are actively interested in me. Some people if they like you as a friend will be nicer, but that is no guaranty that they want to be with you as more than friends. And some people are just affectionate with friends... so who really knows.

I guess you could do the same thing she is doing, maybe a bit more and see what happens. I guess try to talk with her and see what her reaction is... it may be unavoidably obvious, even for someone with Asperger , what is going on.

But I have zero success in such endeavors and I rarely even get the chance to test out what is going on.

She would be the one who knows.
Perhaps you should try talking with
her? Or, like me, is this an impossibility?

If you can muster the courage, start talking to her and try to develop a friendship. She should try something if she's actually interested.

That's really not much to go on. With the amount of detail you've provided, I doubt even an NT could make a positive diagnosis of the situation. I have spent enough time people-watching that I'm not too shabby at figuring out what's happening. (I just don't know what to do with it once I've got it...) If you could give some more detail -- everything relevant you can think of -- I or someone else might be able to help at least with determining what she's up to.

I used to stare at boys I liked in school, to try to give them little hints that I liked them. (Incidentally, I don't recall it ever working...)

But I also looked at guys for other reasons, too. For example, once I was staring at a guy because his pants were the ugliest I ever saw. He thought I thought he was cute. I didn't.

There's not enough to go on here, but if I were you I'd do little things like spend more time looking at her when it isn't necessary.