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22 Dec 2017, 8:46 am

My profile: "I love reading and video games and want a nerdy girl who can geek out with me."
Her profile: "I like hunting and fishing and camping and never coming inside. I want a rough and rugged handsome redneck to live on a farm with."
Her: "Hey! How are you?"
Me: "You didn't read my profile did you?"
Her: "No. Why?"

UUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHH



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22 Dec 2017, 9:11 am

It’s just like how they get surprised by my height- they never seem to read this info in the begining of my profile.



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22 Dec 2017, 11:41 pm

Maybe you two could have completed each other?



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22 Dec 2017, 11:46 pm

Looking for someone to "complete you" is stupid. If you're not a whole person by yourself then bringing someone else into your life isn't going to change that.



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23 Dec 2017, 12:16 am

Loner269 wrote:
Maybe you two could have completed each other?


How do two people with completely different interests "complete" each other? Seems like they'd just make each other miserable instead.



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23 Dec 2017, 12:25 am

I get liked by people who clearly didn’t read my profile as I don’t meet their list of requirements.



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23 Dec 2017, 12:51 am

Well, chances are not many are going to match with you if they actually read your profile..



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23 Dec 2017, 3:31 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
Loner269 wrote:
Maybe you two could have completed each other?


How do two people with completely different interests "complete" each other? Seems like they'd just make each other miserable instead.


I’ve never been a fan of closing off to the idea of people who don’t share your hobbies. I would never expect a man to like Nintendo, geeky things or crafts. If you have chemistry, a compatible sense of humour, and a similar mindset, you’re good to go.

You’ll need to not be repulsed by their views on life, And it’s nice to share a few things like music and enjoying a meal out, but you can have great matches without shared hobbies.



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23 Dec 2017, 5:15 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Loner269 wrote:
Maybe you two could have completed each other?


How do two people with completely different interests "complete" each other? Seems like they'd just make each other miserable instead.


I’ve never been a fan of closing off to the idea of people who don’t share your hobbies. I would never expect a man to like Nintendo, geeky things or crafts. If you have chemistry, a compatible sense of humour, and a similar mindset, you’re good to go.

You’ll need to not be repulsed by their views on life, And it’s nice to share a few things like music and enjoying a meal out, but you can have great matches without shared hobbies.


It's hard enough just making friends with people who don't share at least some mutual interests; finding stuff to talk about or do together is a nightmare. Aspies in particular tend to excel in the element and fall flat on their faces outside of that, so I'd seriously not be trying to chase after fitness freak women if I were a gaming geek.



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23 Dec 2017, 8:37 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Loner269 wrote:
Maybe you two could have completed each other?


How do two people with completely different interests "complete" each other? Seems like they'd just make each other miserable instead.


I’ve never been a fan of closing off to the idea of people who don’t share your hobbies. I would never expect a man to like Nintendo, geeky things or crafts. If you have chemistry, a compatible sense of humour, and a similar mindset, you’re good to go.

You’ll need to not be repulsed by their views on life, And it’s nice to share a few things like music and enjoying a meal out, but you can have great matches without shared hobbies.


It's hard enough just making friends with people who don't share at least some mutual interests; finding stuff to talk about or do together is a nightmare. Aspies in particular tend to excel in the element and fall flat on their faces outside of that, so I'd seriously not be trying to chase after fitness freak women if I were a gaming geek.


I have to agree with Sabreclaw on this one. I would probably give a guy a chance even if we didn't have common interests if we got along well, but I think the chances of things working out between me and someone who is a complete opposite of me when it comes to hobbies and interests are very low.



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23 Dec 2017, 10:15 am

Normal people write their profiles in two seconds, mostly lies, and assume everyone else does the same.


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23 Dec 2017, 3:13 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
Normal people write their profiles in two seconds, mostly lies, and assume everyone else does the same.


there were a couple times i messaged a guy about what he put in his profile and he told me they were lies :lol:



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23 Dec 2017, 4:05 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Loner269 wrote:
Maybe you two could have completed each other?


How do two people with completely different interests "complete" each other? Seems like they'd just make each other miserable instead.


I’ve never been a fan of closing off to the idea of people who don’t share your hobbies. I would never expect a man to like Nintendo, geeky things or crafts. If you have chemistry, a compatible sense of humour, and a similar mindset, you’re good to go.

You’ll need to not be repulsed by their views on life, And it’s nice to share a few things like music and enjoying a meal out, but you can have great matches without shared hobbies.


It's hard enough just making friends with people who don't share at least some mutual interests; finding stuff to talk about or do together is a nightmare. Aspies in particular tend to excel in the element and fall flat on their faces outside of that, so I'd seriously not be trying to chase after fitness freak women if I were a gaming geek.


It also depends on how he hobbies I guess, especially fitness. If you don’t have the same sort of meals and mindset on that it probably wouldn’t be ideal.

As far as gaming goes who cares, wouldn’t bother me at all if a guy didn’t game. But that’s just me.