Living life as a single man

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When do we Aspies love life's get better? I have the worst luck when it comes to romance. Women either view me as a freak, a werido, a dork or worse. I HATE IT!!

Sadly, there's no single objective answer to that question. Some of us have the luck of getting into long-lasting relationships, some of us don't. Either way, worrying about your own chances of getting romantically involved with someone is only making it worse for yourself. Best stop thinking about it, as hard as I know that sounds.

You have to be content with yourself to find anybody. The whole idea of being "completed" by a person is just in the movies. I am convinced women are turned off when you are too needy. And the typical autistic male can be so excited for love he seems like that. I know I have.

Agree with everything you said. I would add that us Aspies end up in something of a conundrum here.

Everyone knows that forbidden fruit is the sweetest, and as an Aspie with impaired social skills, a relationship can become that forbidden fruit. It probably doesn't help that we have a propensity for obsessing either.

I have no idea. I've been feeling a little down because, while other areas of life are looking up, I feel like romance has "passed me by", in a sense.

The last nice guy I met spontaneously decided his trust issues after former relationships were too deep, and he wasn't ready. I'm not sure if that's true or not, but it's sad to think about. How many my age are single and not too hurt to try again? Of those, how many are compatible with my way of living and the flaws that I have?

Meeting people online is stressful and difficult, and I don't have the social energy to be "going out" after work. People's minds change so fast it makes my head spin, and the social games are a pain in the ass.

At least I still have my music, and games.

Ugh, yes, yes it is. I thought it was bad the last time I was single, but it's so much worse now. Everyone is connected to everyone via smart phone apps, so now you're just another left-swipe in a giant ocean of left-swipes of people who just aren't perfect enough, or whatever direction you're supposed to swipe.

Even if you somehow manage to attract the attention of someone who sounds interesting, they will either expect 24/7 texting access, or they will try to give you a chance to wow them before it's ghost time (maybe for no reason at all!).

I'm a cell phone athiest, so more than ever, I feel like one of those cane-waving old men on their porch =)

But I think it's time for me to be single for a while. There's so much more free time when you're not busy obsessing over someone