What's the point of one night stands?

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Hello people,

I see that in our society a lot of people are really keen on one night stands. Casual sex with someone you barely met and are unlikely to repeat the sex, or are going to have sex with them like 3 nights at most and them stop seeing them.

As an aspie male, I don't understand what's the appeal of this.

1) For me, sex with someone you are involved with emotionally is at least an order of magnitude better. By just having sex with anonymous people, without emotions, how is this different from hiring a prostitute (putting aside the upfront cost, which, in many cases, the prostitute will be cheaper)?

2) What wouldn't I want to keep seeing someone that brings me (and I bring them) good times and good pleasure? Why for a lot of people "pump and dump" is better?

Can someone shed some light?

I don't mean to bring the discussion to a "puritan" POV, but to really understand the appeal of it, since for me there's none. (Unlike a long term relationship)

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one night stands are idiotic and pointless. you teach yourself how to have sex correctly for money and everything. its not really great sleeping with every woman you see. its almost like a job after a while. if you dont see the point, dont do it then.

They're fun. You get to have sex.

If you don't like one-night-stands, don't have any.

i am sure you had your days since you say that.

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Sex that's what they are for, have as many as you can weeee!! !

I personally view a "one-night stand" as having sex with someone who you have no emotional/romantic feelings with. It's just the act of sex, nothing more. I don't agree with engaging in "one-night stands," but if that's what a person chooses to do, that's their decision.

The point of a "one-night stand," in my opinion, is basically engaging in sex to fulfill your needs or urges that you may have, while at the same time, not having to worry about the emotional baggage that may come with being in an actual relationship with that person.

Different strokes for different folks.

One night stands aren't really my thing but I can understand why some people like it.

It's disgusting. Simple as that.

The difference is that in a ONS you both are attracted to each other physically/sexually. With a prostitute it is their job, so it is unlikely that they are actually wanting to have sex with you for the gratification. They didn't choose you.

Also, there ARE emotions involved in a ONS, otherwise you're doin' it wrong.


Because most people want more than just sex from someone they are in a relationship with. You generally need more than just sexually attraction in a relationship.

Sometimes a person isn't looking for a relationship but is happy to have sex as a fun activity. In these cases it can actually be risky to sleep with someone who you might be romantically compatible with. Feelings can get hurt. Best to just go with sexual attraction and learn as little as possible about them, if you don't want to get attached. (Or sleep with that hot friend who you know you could "never live with").

To debase yourself.

How so?

Debase = lower value to some extent

To me, partaking in simple animalistic processes is something a civilized person should be above, and that certain things should be exclusively shared between partners of a lasting relationship (you can say it increases the emotional pleasure knowing that it's exclusive, and not something easily given out based on simple attraction and primal urges). Not to mention that people that can't control their basic primal urges probably aren't the best people in regards to stability, and speaking as an autistic man, stability is one of those needed things. Hence, value is lowered (albeit, only through my eyes).

Of course, to each their own and all, and how they see these things.

Very interesting discussion and points of view.

I agree. That's why I've decided to give up eating food, drinking water, and sleeping. You should too!