Aspie girl is afraid to meet me....help?

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We had been a pseudo-couple for a few weeks and had communicated in every possible way other than face to face.

We were supposed to meet on Wednesday but at the last moment she bailed and now she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me.

After a while of talking she said she didn't know why she was afraid to meet me and wasn't sure if afraid was even the right word for how she felt.

Anyone have any relevant experience or insight they'd like to share?

I'm hoping to at least meet her once.

Just keep talking to her.

In this case, "familiarity" will probably not breed "contempt." After knowing you a bit better, she might soften, and agree to meet you.

Make sure you both meet in a "neutral" spot, like a restaurant in town.

I've had that happen to me, too.

I can feel your frustration.

I hope she does change her mind some day.

She might have some anxiety about meeting. Don't take it personal. If you like her try to do the online date thing I guess. Like text her and things like that for a while. But also make it clear where you want this to go and that is to the normal place most couples are. We see each other in person.

It depends on how much you like her. Is she worth it? Do you think she is telling the truth?

It was my experience that anyone who bailed on meeting had no intention of getting together at all and only want a 'pseudo' relationship. Best to move on unless you want to be bald from pulling your hair out. You should have told her that 'afraid' or not what she is doing is rude, rude, rude and you don't have time for such childishness.

GHOST her; stop talking to her and watch is she will initiate.

Perhaps you caught a catfish.

dont meet in a neutral spot. meet her where, when, and under whatever conditions she would want to meet.

I can't believe how many guys (not all) are telling you not to bother She's an Aspie female, she is going to have issues, you happen to have come across one of hers early on which might be why you have a good chance with her because a lot of NT guys would assume she's playing games, but since you understand that's extremely unlikely from an Aspie you should just be patient. The best way to get her to meet you is to take the pressure off about doing it, tell her to let you know when she's ready and keep communicating in other ways.