Is it acceptible to ask a friend to hook you up with someone

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I'm no social butterfly, that's for sure. But I'm dying. I gotta get into a relationship. I've got friends who are certainly more socially adept, and I'm getting desperate to the point that I'm considering asking one/some/all of them if they know anyone single they could put me in touch with.

But I'm so afraid of doing this, because it'll mean admitting I'm single and worse still, possibly admitting I've NEVER dated at alll, at least, not beyond the first date. I try to portray confidence and self assuredness so they'll respect me, but if I admit this will the veneer be erased and they'll see me for the loser I am?

And even worse, since I've been such a miserable failure at dating, I'm terrified that if my friend does put me in touch with someone, and the date is terrible, like they find me ugly or awkward, that person will be mad at my friend for hooking them up with a loser like me, and then my friend will be pissed at me. It's separate spheres colliding and I wonder if I should just be grateful for the few friends who will tolerate my presence, and not f**k it up by trying to seek their help on the dating front.

I think you think too much.
If you're worrying so much, it's not attractive.

You're in a vicious cycle: Your obvious desperation and rock-bottom self-esteem pretty much reduce your chances of success to zero which reinforces your desperation and low self esteem ad nauseum...

Just try to forget the whole thing for a while and try to find something else to focus on.

Become a plumber if your not one already

The trade profession not the large lady porn fetish thing. Well unless your game for that in which case best of luck

You have to trust your friends before they can hook you up with anyone. You will never trust her until you trust them.

It's socially acceptable to ask friends to set you up with someone. I don't know why you would be so worried about them thinking you're a loser and stuff if they're you're friends.

Well then, how do we go about changing the way your friends view you? Any ideas?

What you want to do is fine, and you don't need to say you've never dated before at all. Just casually bring it up with your friends.

You seem really hard on yourself. I am sure you are far better than you are making yourself out to be. Learn to love yourself more, so you can genuinely pass that on to someone else.

To answer your question, it's very much acceptable to be set up by a friend.

you gotta be comfortable with yourself before you try and get into a relationship. When i was a freshman in high school I had the same exact feelings as you, trust me it's not very attractive to females and they can see it from a mile away and will turn and run in the other direction. Take a step back find something you enjoy in life and build confidence through that. But to answer your question it's prefectly acceptable, I've hooked friends up and friends have hooked me up, happens all the time if it doesn't work out no one is going to hate you for it.

Haha you remind me of me I don't have an answer for you but I would also like to add to that question; how do you get your friend to hook you up with a girl?