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08 Mar 2018, 11:14 pm

So, I just had a date with a girl...it went fine, we connected, and I think the interest is there. However, at this point, I feel the special interest urge coming on, the kind that makes you want to accelerate a relationship way too fast, and the kind that will scare someone away. Is there anything you guys do to temper those feelings and let things happen more naturally? Ie. when and what would a good followup be?


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09 Mar 2018, 12:27 am

Take a cold shower? :twisted:


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09 Mar 2018, 12:32 am

Mudboy wrote:
Take a cold shower? :twisted:

I already do...have been for 4 years...


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09 Mar 2018, 12:59 am

Sorry, I don't have a good answer. You being self aware about the problem is a very good start.


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09 Mar 2018, 3:05 am

Meditate, analyze and be patient. Then indulge yourself by surfing the web and making plans for "little things". "Oh, there's a thing I think she'd like *bookmarked*". "When the time is right, I'm going to suggest this activity *favorited*". "I am so getting her one of those! *saved*" etc.

My most recent attempt at romance didn't go too well, but I still have few of this type of thing saved.


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09 Mar 2018, 8:12 am

Wolfram87 wrote:
Meditate, analyze and be patient. Then indulge yourself by surfing the web and making plans for "little things". "Oh, there's a thing I think she'd like *bookmarked*". "When the time is right, I'm going to suggest this activity *favorited*". "I am so getting her one of those! *saved*" etc.

My most recent attempt at romance didn't go too well, but I still have few of this type of thing saved.

That was helpful, thank you.


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09 Mar 2018, 8:16 am

You're very welcome. Glad I could help.


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