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NeuroNurse
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08 Mar 2018, 10:08 pm

I started a nursing program in September. I am in my late 20's. The girl I have been talking to more and more often is also in her late twenties. I know this girl has a boyfriend because I have her on facebook and there are lots of pictures of her and her boyfriend. Anyways this girl makes me feel really special in the way she interacts with me. Once she waited for me outside of class but I was kind of oblivious to this because when I saw her I said hello but walked on past her because I thought she was waiting for other people. I went to a door and found she was coming up behind me. When I see her pass me in the parking lot she always waves at me and and we've been going to the same gym across the street from school and when she sees me she always comes up to talk to me. Just today for instance she same up to me a for a few seconds I didn't notice her beside me. My confusion is since she is in a relationship her actions towards me are confusing. It has made me fall very hard for her. I know that for over a year her facebook display picture and banner were her and her boyfriend, but she recently changed her display picture to her and a girlfriend. Her boyfriend has an instagram account and up until recently her bf's profile picture was the two of them, but he changed it to a picture of just him. His fb is still a picture of the two of them. I know there still dating though. Is she just being nice, and if so why does she go out of her way to interact with me? Thanks.



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08 Mar 2018, 10:22 pm

There isn't any one sure fire way to tell if someone is romantically interested or not. You have to piece together all of the clues they give you, to get a good idea about them, and it still isn't an exact science.

If someone goes out of their way to talk to you, there is a good chance that they might be interested, but not always. Is she having problems with her boyfriend, and "shopping around" for a new man? Does she seem like the unfaithful type? Maybe she is just a friendly type of person?



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08 Mar 2018, 10:25 pm

SilverStar wrote:
There isn't any one sure fire way to tell if someone is romantically interested or not. You have to piece together all of the clues they give you, to get a good idea about them, and it still isn't an exact science.

If someone goes out of their way to talk to you, there is a good chance that they might be interested, but not always. Is she having problems with her boyfriend, and "shopping around" for a new man? Does she seem like the unfaithful type? Maybe she is just a friendly type of person?


I have no idea. I have never her her talk about her boyfriend and I have never asked. I do know she used to have a picture of the two of them on her phone display but she changed that. She does seem to be friendly.



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08 Mar 2018, 11:04 pm

NeuroNurse wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
There isn't any one sure fire way to tell if someone is romantically interested or not. You have to piece together all of the clues they give you, to get a good idea about them, and it still isn't an exact science.

If someone goes out of their way to talk to you, there is a good chance that they might be interested, but not always. Is she having problems with her boyfriend, and "shopping around" for a new man? Does she seem like the unfaithful type? Maybe she is just a friendly type of person?


I have no idea. I have never her her talk about her boyfriend and I have never asked. I do know she used to have a picture of the two of them on her phone display but she changed that. She does seem to be friendly.



I'm not 100% sure, because I wasn't there, but it sounds like that she could be having relationship problems with her boyfriend. Women like to get someone else lined up, when they think their current relationship isn't working out.

I would keep her as a potential romantic prospect, but I also wouldn't get my hopes up about it, though. This is one of those "wait and see" kinda things.



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09 Mar 2018, 1:35 am

NeuroNurse wrote:
I started a nursing program in September. I am in my late 20's. The girl I have been talking to more and more often is also in her late twenties. I know this girl has a boyfriend because I have her on facebook and there are lots of pictures of her and her boyfriend. Anyways this girl makes me feel really special in the way she interacts with me. Once she waited for me outside of class but I was kind of oblivious to this because when I saw her I said hello but walked on past her because I thought she was waiting for other people. I went to a door and found she was coming up behind me. When I see her pass me in the parking lot she always waves at me and and we've been going to the same gym across the street from school and when she sees me she always comes up to talk to me. Just today for instance she same up to me a for a few seconds I didn't notice her beside me. My confusion is since she is in a relationship her actions towards me are confusing. It has made me fall very hard for her. I know that for over a year her facebook display picture and banner were her and her boyfriend, but she recently changed her display picture to her and a girlfriend. Her boyfriend has an instagram account and up until recently her bf's profile picture was the two of them, but he changed it to a picture of just him. His fb is still a picture of the two of them. I know there still dating though. Is she just being nice, and if so why does she go out of her way to interact with me? Thanks.


She is treating you how I would expect one to treat another person whom is familiar to them and whom one wishes to be friends with. She may or may not have interest beyond that but personally I would not consider trying to court someone who is already in a relationship because I would not want to be in a relationship with someone who would start looking for my replacement while still in a relationship with me. Nor would I do that to another person.

I will say, however, I think you should have more criteria than "she's nice to me" on your list for potential romantic partners.



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14 Mar 2018, 7:21 pm

So I have made a bit of a 180 degree turn with her. My interactions with her have become a bit weird. She still comes up and talks to me all the time but I usually don't get more than 4 or 5 words in before constantly being interrupted by her. The other day I was at the gym doing my thing and she came up to me and stood beside me for like 15 seconds without me really noticing she was there. She finally gestured at me to get my attention. I don't really know how to take her anymore. Kind of wish she would be a bit more consistent in her actions.