Mutual feelings and anxiety

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If you had romantic feelings for a friend but you were also extremely nervous and panicky around them, would you feel more relaxed if you discovered the feelings were mutual?

Would that be a relief? Phew, she likes me back!! Now we can stop worrying about rejection and enjoy our time together.

Or would it bring extra anxiety about taking things to the next level? She likes me now because of rose-tinted glasses, but once she discovers what I'm really like, then she will lose interest and I will get hurt. Better not to pursue this any further.

Definitely option A

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I think I'd feel nervous over having a mix of both feelings but I would defiantly try to take things to the next level like going on a date or just hanging out enough to where we become a couple

Definitely the second option. If by some miracle somebody ended up liking me, I'm well aware it'd be based on a thorough misconception of who I am. If it's with somebody I'm not into then I only have to worry about rejecting them in a way that their feelings aren't hurt, but if I'm into her I'm definitely going to be torn between temptation and reason, which will lead to serious anxiety and stress.

Luckily it's impossible for somebody to be into me so I won't ever have to deal with this situation.