How and where do I find a boyfriend?

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I was wondering how people even find relationships to begin with. I am 21, and I have been single as single can be for my entire life. I just don’t get what I am doing wrong. I was not ready to date until a few years ago and when I decided I was ready for a relationship, no one has come my way. Do I need to seek out a boyfriend? I do not know how dating works. I understand how other people find relationships, but I do not know how to get into a relationship myself.

I am not looking for a fickle fleeting love that will be there one day and gone the next. I am searching for that person that I can spend the rest of my life with. You know, be friends, then date, and eventually get married. I want someone that will be there for the rest of my life, and I do not know where to find him.

This is something difficult for me to deal with. I want to have loving feelings for someone, and I want to be in a relationship. I just do not know how.

I wish that God would lead the person who he wants me to be with my way. I believe in God, and I’d like someone that could share that belief with me, or at least accept it.

I feel like I should be in a relationship by now. I have tried Match and failed. Where do you think I should go to find someone? I am a nice girl. I want to wait until marriage to... you know. I want to be in a caring relationship with a guy that likes me for me. I must be doing something wrong because I do not believe I am undesirable. I am comfortable with who I am, but I can’t even tell if a guy will like me. Any advice?

You can find a romantic partner anywhere, but the best chance of finding someone like-minded, is when you are out, doing what you love. You can also meet people through networking (a friend, or family member knows someone), but this isn't always a good idea, because I have found that the person doing the matchmaking likes to fix you up with someone that they think would be a good match, and they have a tendency to meddle in between the two of you. Also, if it doesn't work out, then you have to deal with a barrage of questions from said matchmaker (ask me how I know ).

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I regret to inform you you might've just found thousands.

I thought about that before I posted. I decided that it was worth the risk.

The waiting until marriage is a universal turnoff for every guy out there.

Only for the shallow loser guys.

A bit harsh don't you think?

I can definitely respect a girl who wants to wait until marriage, only if she is a virgin however.

From the sound of it, church might work. If not church itself, maybe some church-arranged social activities or events?

In supermarkets, on the shelves.

incredibly incorrect post.

The Acme Corporation, where Wile E. Coyote buys too

I'd consider waiting til marriage to be an unacceptable caveat; promising to enter an exclusive sexual relationship with someone whom you don't know if you're sexually compatible with strikes me as a needless gamble with no upside. But I guess I'm just a "shallow loser" who thinks sexual intimacy is an important part of a relationship, or something...

I met all 3 of my girlfriends on online forums. I met my 2nd & current one on this forum. You might could find a guy here OP if your willing to do the long-distance thing for a while. I did & I relocated from Louisiana to Vermont to be with my current girlfriend. I also 2nd the idea about looking in church or church related things since you are religious & want to wait till marriage to have sex.

My reply was extremely mild compared to the sick statement I was responding to. If I heard a guy say something like that to my daughter or nieces, I would go postal.

She could meet people by joining hobby groups. Making male friends is the first step...

It is not a turnoff for the decent ones. I’d much rather wait for a guy that has strong morals even if it takes a whole lot longer to find them.

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I am a virgin.