I want a gothic/punk/alternative girlfriend but can't

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I really wish I had a girlfriend who was goth or into some sort of alternative culture like punk and anime but I can't find one. There are no hang outs for alternative people in my area and the few alternative people I see are already coupled up or already have company and aren't interested in making more friends.

Maybe you need to look harder? If you went on forums and had normal conversations with people you may have more luck.

I haven’t seen you post something on here that isn’t complaining, maybe it’s not working for you? This is a great place to meet alternative people, if you talk about interesting topics and not be a victim.

I know you have it rough and life isn’t easy, but people don’t want to get to know people who do nothing but moan. I know that from first hand experience, and it took me a long time to learn it.

What anime do you like? Do you lije video games? What would you like to do if you could pick up one hobby?

I once tried asking a girl at a bookstore who told me she liked anime and manga out but she turned me down. I tried to engage with nerdy girls at college but they gave me "f**k off signals".

I like anime such as My Hero Academia (Not only that series but there are too many to list) and the video games I like are RPGs like Final Fantasy and fighting games like Street Fighter and Guilty Gear. I am not sure if music or drawing is the hobby I want to focus on the most; I had dreams for both but I lost them on the way.

I do indeed have it rough but there are certain members who don't think I do and that I need to die. A lot of them are in the music, art, and TV sections here.

Sorry, we don’t serve girlfriends on demand here.

Well you certainly have an interesting dilemma considering I'm as equally attracted to those kinds of women as I am peppy athletic ones

Last edited by SportsGamer35728 on 21 May 2018, 5:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

i guess I'm stating the obvious but have you tried finding goth/ punk/ anime related societies offline or online forums in which to meet new people? i for one keep saying i want to meet more people who are into anime and music but i dont make enough effort to find / go to events and clubs/ societies where id meet these people. your thread inspires me to do otherwise and not waste time complaining (i do it too much ugh)

Some advice from a goth girl about goth girls.
Enjoy.

https://medium.com/@silicondomme/so-you ... 0da7ca1b04

I can get along with some Goth girls; but sometimes, a few can get on my nerves.

When I went to high school, there were Goth girls----but they weren't called that then. They were called "Punk" or "New Wave." This one girl who dressed "Goth" couldn't stand my guts.

Abby, from CSI, is a cute Goth girl; she's in her late 40's now.

I think Goth Fairy, on WP, is a nice person.

They don't exist in my area. Austin would be a different story but I don't have the money, job skills, and social connections to move.

Well, I have been in the alt scene for 10 years. Goth girls do not want "normal" guys.
Liking anime does not make you a goth. Do you dress as a goth\punk or alt?
My experience is if you dont dress to fit the scene it doesnt matter that you like gothic literature or architecture or music. It's pretty much about clubbing with dresscode and having some deep conversations.

As long as you are "normal" you wont be considered.
I know there are always exceptions but majority of us, we are the rule!

No one really likes guys who approch women giving off the “I am talking to you because I want a girlfriend” vibe, trust me. Nothing puts someone’s back up faster than “There’s my next potential girlfriend victim”, sorry I know that’s harsh, but it’s the truth. Talk to men and women as people on here, not a potential girlfriend.

Those are good interests, keep it up.

Move to Berlin. "Alternative" girls are everywhere there. Tokyo would be good, too.

If Berlin or Tokyo is too far away, Houston or Austin would at least be a huge improvement over where you are now. Believe me, I know.

I wouldn't mind it if a girl liked Gothic cathedrals....

1.) Diet & exercise until you look and feel good.
2.) Prepare your costume of choice.
3.) Go to some big (or small) goth/punk/alt/anime event or convention & surround yourself by people you're attracted to.
4.) Meet as many of them as possible, especially females, and exchange contact information.
5.) Keep in touch and see if friendships develop, and perhaps if one of those turns into more.
6.) Repeat, for there is not guarantee to anyone that social/dating/relationship success happens on the first attempt.

I wear t-shirts of my favorite bands. I used to wear spiked bracelets but I don't know if I still have any.



Another forum poster once told me to stop seeing women as "potential victims" which I took offense to because it sounded like he was telling me I was a rapist in waiting. He claimed he was trying to help me but was calling me a creep at the same time.

I always felt like a relationship is something you have to pursue. I don't know exactly where it comes from but I suppose it's because I was always going home from school alone while my older brother was bringing girls home after hanging out somewhere after school.

Well crap so much for my plans for an afternoon at the ballpark for a date with one