What traits you DON'T want in a partner

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For everyone here whether single or seeing someone now, what traits do you have a list for that are strongly non-desired?

I know that I don't want:
* Needy or bombing me with texts (I want a girl who has a cool head and stable)
* Horrible-smelling or doesn't care about her face at all
* probably don't want a girl who generally is extremely nasty or others wouldn't want to deal with.

Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.

Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.

I don't like these traits:
*indirect
*inconsiderate
*passive aggressive
*unmotivated

NPD,
Not liking heavy metal

Doesn’t want a job. Anyone who would choose sitting around every day than contributing to society through employment or self employment isn’t for me.

a penis.

Greedy
Dependant
Materialistic
Dishonest

I wouldn't want a partner to be the type to seek constant attention, neither from me nor from anyone else. I like independent women, not insecure attention-seekers.

Abusive
Irrational
Can't feel my joy in things I like, even if he isn't particularly interested in them
Would either abandon me or overprotect me based on knowledge of my differences

Second date with a guy, he's on the phone with his daughter, and refers to his ex (her mother) as "Mommie dearest."

I don't want that guy. I left and never looked back.

~Has a kid
~Is a bit older than me
~Independent
~Very mature
~Very smart
~Anti-affectionate with romantic partners

I'm going to leave out things I think are obvious like "abusive" or "secret serial killer". I'm very fussy, but the stand out ones would be:

Smoker
Parent with young kids full-time
Wants marriage & kids
Politically right-wing
Religious
Extroverted
Smelly
Average intelligence or below.

Hmm I even tried to hold back but the list kept growing

What I wouldn't want?

- Someone with kids
- Cigarette smoker or hard drug user
- Devoutly religious
- Extremely left-wing or extremely right-wing
- No sense of humour
- Controlling/unable to compromise
- Trans, genderfluid or really anything LGBT
- Extremely outgoing or social
- Not enough intelligence or interest in discussing ideas
- Not truthful or someone who plays mind games

1-Dramaqueen.

What I Don't Like in Anyone:

• Abusive (Emotionally or Physically)
• Addicted (Tobacco, Drugs, Freecell, et cetera)
• Belittling / Insulting
• Contentious
• Deceptive / Dishonest
• Dependent relative
• Emotionally Insecure (i.e., Clingy, Needy, Weepy, et cetera)
• Gluttonous
• Contemptuous / Hostile
• Irrational
• Irresponsible
• Know-It-All (yet still ignorant)
• Lazy
• Manipulative
• Overly Dramatic / Overly Reactive
• Plays "Head Games" (i.e., Passive-Aggressive, Silent Treatment, et cetera)
• Poor Hygiene
• Poor Manners
• Prejudiced (i.e, Ableist, Racist, Sexist, et cetera)
• Prideful (i.e., "Better Than Thou", "Holier Than Thou", et cetera)
• Prison Record
• Sneaky
• Violent
• Whiny (e.g., A constant "Poor, poor me" attitude)
• Willfully Ignorant (e.g., "Stupid")