Do you base relationships on sex?

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In this culture where fwb and booty call arrangements are talked about in polite company, can sex be used as a center piece for a relationship or do you prefer more depth?

Oh, no!

I am much more shallow than that!

Sex is nice----but just hanging out and shooting the breeze is nicer.

It isn’t a centerpiece, but I need to be 100% sure I am compatible with someone in that way.

Define compatible

No, sex is optional.

Who in their right mind bases a relationship on sex?

FWB is about sex and very popular

Among whom? NTs? NDs?

At least, it is not popular in my book.

Here in the States a lot of people hook up

Having similar mindsets and libidos.

I don't think sex should be the center piece of the relationship. I think people really need to get to know each other before having sex. I don't want to have sex with someone I don't really know or love. I want to have sex with a person that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

That is indeed the ideal case. Unfortunately, some men (and some women) won't wait until marriage -- if their "partners" are not willing to put out before marriage, they will step out and find one who will.

Lots of 40 year old virgins on both sides of that fence.

Why would you even want to wait until marriage? That's dumb af

So lets just say you and your partner decide to wait for marriage. You two are together for two years, and you finally decide to get married, and then on your wedding night when you finally have sex for the first time only to find out your newlywed husband has got a 1 inch penis. And not only that, he doesn't even like having sex, he'd rather go jack off to some Mia Khalifa bukake sht. But you want to have sex everyday; you want to do all of this crazy and kinky sht that would make 50 shades of grey look tame. He doesn't wanna do any of that.

If you would have had sex earlier, you would have figured this stuff out, potentially realize you two are incompatible, and not have to waste your money getting married and maybe even divorced.

If that's the case, then he would not likely be interested in a real woman anyway.

If the person walks than you are rid of someone that doesn't share your values.

One inch penis? Not likely and you could probably get annulment. That's something the guy should disclose. Can't have coitus with a tiny penis like that.

I think Elaine is some sort of Christian. They are the wait till marriage crowd.

If two people don't want to wait....it's their business.