This is so important.

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I've said it here before, but thought this FB meme was well worth sharing:



Twice in a span of just over a week I heard the words "I love you," and neither was from a romantic partner. One was from my oldest God daughter (16) after we spent a night out to see "A Star Is Born," and the other was from my youngest God daughter (11) after I spent a night out with her, her little brother, and their parents on my birthday. Both were genuine, sincere, and very touching heartfelt expressions of love and I feel very grateful to have heard them. IMO Far too many here overlook the love of their friends & family around them as they dwell on a lack of a romantic partner. There's a lot more love in this world than that that comes from a significant other.. let it into your lives, you'll feel better for it. (And also give it freely to those you love! Whether you say it or just express it via your actions, we can all love others who aren't our partners.)

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

The Greeks had a bunch of different words for love. The most well known is Eros (erotic/sensual), also being the name of one of the Greek gods.

Agape was their word for selfless love, and is commonly used today to mean a sort of unconditional love for all other people.

Contrasted with that is Philautia, their word for self-love. I found that one amusing since it's etymologically derived from autos from which we also get the word autism.

Even ex-moderators here have posted a lot of nasty things to the contrary of this thread lately.

I'm only posting to say how stupid that is, otherwise I'm too shy so I'll just lurk.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0f5ZG9LG6k

Now I will retreat back to my dark hole and hide. Be well and take care.

Just imagine you can't form any romantic or sexual connection with members of your desired sex and think about whether family or friend love will fill that void.

They're two different emotional/psychological needs. They're not interchangeable at all. Otherwise there would be no reason to classify them differently.

What if you're depressed about being a virgin or your lack of a sex life? I'm sure hanging out with friends will fix that right up.

The problem with your perspective is whilst you don't have relationship experience, you engage in a lot of casual sex, which would make being single A LOT easier to accept for people who desire sex. When you get nowhere despite trying you can only feel like you lack worth, and you never get any kind of validation or indication that you're a worthwhile romantic and sexual partner, or that you have the ability to attract people to you that you are attracted to (or at all). You're out of touch with what life is like for a single, lonely, sexually and romantically isolated straight male. If you couldn't get sex OR a relationship I bet youd change your tune real quick.

I get your point with this, but try being considered sexually invisible by everyone and then see how well you cope. It's not fun.

I would encourage you to reconsider the screencapped posts in the OP.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I get what you're saying goldfish. Other types of love are very rewarding. My family are nuts, but we really do love each other. I have a handful of really good genuine friends too. It is rewarding.

But, sexual desires are a natural thing humans feel. And even with these great people in my life, there's still a bit of my existence missing.

That's not superficial. It's life.

Impulses notwithstanding, I think Goldfish's OP ia about expanding our ability to relate to others instead of routinely freaking out about what kind of relationships we experience.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Become a homosexual by choice or accept a life of being forever alone? So you are an unattractive guy Aspie or NT and have struck out with all females and you have no options. There are many unattractive male NTS that never attract females. Being unwanted by females is not just an Aspie issue it effects NT men too. Being unwanted is like being dealt a losing hand in poker but unable to change that hand