Whys it have to not be ok to ask if a woman likes you?

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I dont know if this lady likes me or not I wish I could just ask her.

Ask her to be your girlfriend then. How else do you expect it to go anywhere?

Why can't you just ask her?

How’s that work?
Plus her profile says she won’t have sex until after 6+ dates, so I’m going guess eh won’t want to be a gf until after similar amount of dates.

To ask means i lack confidence I’ve been told

Because it's sort of backing her into a corner. NTs, in particular females, try to avoid being what they see as rude even when your asking then for an honest answer.

Has she said yes to a third date? if so then that's a much bigger sign that she likes you than anything she might answer anyway.

If a third date goes well, you could tell her you like her (I'm assuming you do). If you do it in a text the next morning she can think about how to respond. If she says yes to a forth date then again I think that is an answer in itself.

Good luck

Do what your gut instinct says, but if you never ask her in the first place than you can be guaranteed to not ever know possibly

Or she could be using me for free ride(paying for her to see movies/activities) Some women do that, one at my work bragged to other women about doing it to a guy.

I kind of agree with fluffy here.

If she agrees to a 3rd then things are going well.

When you get a 4th date you will possibly feel a bit more secure.

There is no need to force things, the relationship will develop if it is meant to.

Perhaps you could suggest doing something which doesn't cost lots of money if you are worried about being taken for a ride?

A walk and picnic in a beautiful park? Or an activity which is fun like bike ride?

Few women are gold diggers, most are just wanting a caring relationship.

Do you actually like her?

What are your feelings towards her?

I probably wouldn’t express that sort of feeling until your body tells you that you desire her.

And if you do tell her, just say you enjoy her company, and that you want to continue to see her. Don’t “try” anything until the 7th date (at least).

i honestly feel this thing of going-out-for-free is much more something certain woman like to brag about to look cool, cold and independent (i have no idea why this is considered a nice thing but it seems to be) than something they actively do – specially agreeing to see the same person several times. in any scenarios, i wouldn't like people like that.

but does she give you some clue about doing it? or aren't you just considering this possibility because your low self-esteem disturbs you from seeing why someone would enjoy spending time with you? are you enjoying her company as well? not only thinking about the prospect about something future, but what you both already had.

as much i think people should be open about their feelings and doubts to a partner, maybe it isn't a good advice in those early stages. she can get uncomfortable as maybe she still have conflicting feelings, she maybe interpret it as something more, som pressure and it can blew things up.

With such precise numbers established in advance, gotta wonder:
— Is she, before even knowing whom she'll date, sure she won't accidentally want to have sex with him on the sixth date or earlier?
— In the event that she does want to have sex with him too early, does she dutifully suppress her desire for the higher goal of ... what exactly? Not satisfying him? Or more like getting as many rides and drinks as possible at his expense, possibly having sex on the side with someone else, before ditching him and repeating the procedure with the next mark?

Might as well advertise, "Take me on a chaste, nice and slow trip around the world, entirely at your expense, and then I may or may not have sex with you or want anything to do with you anymore".

They're advertising their biological fitness, just like men who brag about getting lots of women to put out for them. Being able to exploit others is good for your survival and that of your offspring. And advertising your fitness is such a widespread behavior because it is itself beneficial, making you even fitter. It lets other people know you're not to be messed with and they'd better stay on your good side, making good deals and alliances with you rather than with others.

it can be true but i always thought humans had already got over this biological survival thing and could just be nice to each other.

Don’t tell her yet.

Why don't you ask her to do stuff that does not involve paying for things? Do stuff that's free and actually get to know each other and you'll get a better idea.