I'm Falling In Love...With A Married Woman

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Hello Everyone,

I'm Danny, age 33, and I was diagnosed at age 3 with Autism and eventually, at age 17, with a separate diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (commonly referred to for short as OCD).

In spite of my dual diagnosis, I've proudly appeared as an Actor/Performer in my hometown Community Theater organization based in Georgia, an Hour Southeast of the Georgia Coast, in 9 Stage Shows.

This in mind, what I'm about to discuss with my fellow Auties here, and relatives of Auties, is a VERY Sensitive Subject that should be treated with the Utmost Respect and Dignity it deserves: as the title of the post says, I'm Falling In Love...With A Married Woman.

It all started for me 10 years ago this November, shortly after Thanksgiving, and before my 24th Birthday that December 9, when I began very heavily getting myself into the Evangelical Sermons of a Relatively Young Preacher named Kirk Cameron, who's been delivering Sermons both on TV and in various U.S. Churches since the year 2000.

Soon after the New Year the following January, coincidentally shortly after Dot (referring to my 82-year-old Grandma who I called Dot and will refer to her as Dot from here out), shortly after Dot passed away, I discovered, via Kirk's official personal website (revamped earlier this year) that he has a younger sister named Candace, who per Kirk's official website is happily married to a Retired Pro Hockey Player named Val Bure, with whom Candace has 3 teenagers and lives in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.

Considering I have relatives who live near Candace in Fort Lauderdale (via the subdivisions of Plantation, Sunrise and Davie), among them my uncle Sammy (a landscaper), my aunt Ann, my cousin Angie, and my young-adult nieces Shelby and Hayley (Angie's daughters), as well as Shelby's 8-year-old son, my grandnephew C.J. (born with such a severe case of Down Syndrome that until this year, he required a breathing tube around his neck), I considered traveling to Fort Lauderdale in the hopes of seeing Candace in person while visiting my relatives on the side; ultimately, I chose a safer, alternative, and free route to meet Candace: via Twitter, with our Social Media friendship expanding in the 7 years since this September 2 to Instagram and Facebook both as of this writing.

In spite of Candace being LONG ago married, longer than I've been legally an Adult, I consider Candace, outside my parents and other family members, my best friend, someone who I feel more comfortable being open and honest with about anything in the world--often times more comfortable than I feel even with my own parents sometimes.

I would still love to see Candace in person one day, and still believe I will, but until then, I will keep hope alive til either I achieve the mission (seeing Candace in person) or til I'm dead, whichever comes first.

For those of you reading this post, let me make something clear: I AM NOT, nor will I EVER BE, a Stalker, NOR have I EVER Stalked ANYONE at ANYTIME; this is merely an Educational Post.

I should remind everyone that the romantic desires I have towards Candace are normal and rational, but because, above all else, she's MARRIED, I've come to accept that I can never have SEX with her.

In spite of that fact, however, I love Candace, and I respect her as a friend and a human being first and foremost, and for that, I'm grateful in having known and loved her these last 7 years.

Until next post, remember one thing: If you want somebody to be your friend, you've got to be a friend to them--something my uncle, Joe Anderson (who passed away last month at age 67) wrote me in a letter once when I was 16 years old, a philosophy I've lived by ever since in making friends with everyone I meet and come across, especially with Candace, in my friendship I've had with her online the last 7 years.

Danny

Open your parachute and aim to fall somewhere else.

What spider said. Find someone to take your mind off of this person.

Greetings.

You've stated yourself that the love you feel for her is unrequitable. As such, I would assume everyone here, myself included, will tell you to break yourself of these feelings you've developed in the manner that you know from your own personal experience has the best chance of working for you. If you're still a prayerful person, that would seem like a perfect thing to pray about, no?

The feelings you've developed are destructive.

How much have you actually seen this Candace person?

Dude... I've been down this path. It sucks. But you've got to let go. Go find a girl in your day to day life who you love, and you'll both be better for it.

Yeah...that’s a good question to think about.

Brother, with all due respect, you need to forget about Candace. It’s perfectly understandable to have crushes on celebrities. Heck, even I had a crush on her back in the day. Every boy my age where I lived who had a TV who watched Full House had a crush on her (although I was a bigger fan of Jodi, to be honest).

I think it’s AWESOME that you have some contact with a celebrity. The thing about Christian celebs is how accessible they are as opposed to a lot of other Hollywood types. Travis Cottrell is a big name in my circles, and I’ve been to his church en route to conferences he headlined. And no, I’m NOT talking about the Beth Moore stuff. I’ve met Paul Baloche. And some of the big-name choral arrangers out there—I’ve actually met David and Celeste Clydesdale. And Cliff Duren.

Outside music, you have other activities where celebs mingle with us mere mortals. I’m into distance running. If you are a big fan of any given elite runner, you could easily sign up to run races with them, for instance at Boston qualifiers such as New York, Chicago, or even somewhere like where I live.

My point being it’s pretty awesome when you can make friends with celebs. True confession: I STILL have a crush on Katherine Kelly Lang, follow her and Thorston Kaye on Twitter, and would really like to meet her in person one day—maybe if I ever work up to Ironman. And if I ever do meet KKL, yeah, I’ll probably melt into a pile of goo. She’s probably used to that, I’m sure. But afterwards, everyone goes their way and gets on with life.

So as awesome as it is, PLEASE do yourself a favor and don’t get too wrapped up in your celeb crush and the fact you actually have regular contact with this person. You are very lucky to have this friend. Don’t push it, or you might not have her for very long.

There are plenty of other fish in the sea. If you like fish. Personally, I prefer girls

OCD.

This isn't OCD. OCD does not involve infatuation. It involves an overwhelming sense of contamination or unbalance of the universe, urges to double and triple check, magical thinking and irrational fears.

Anyway I suspect the OP is a troll. But if so, very well done.

Indeed...he hasn’t been back or answered any questions.

I was fascinated that he talks about Kirk Cameron and THEN links Candace to him like Candace is some random nobody who happens to be related to a celeb actor. And THEN he probably gets a follow-back on Twitter...

Look, I was reading KKL’s tweets when someone with poorer-than-usual grammar for Twitter asked for a follow back. KKL replied to his(?) tweet, so I assume she followed him back. If KKL replied to me and followed me, I’d probably die.

But I would NOT assume that meant KKL and I had some special connection and that we were good friends, aside from the fact she’s inhabited my dreams off and on since 1988.

Just being real here... Celebs are celebs for a reason. MOST of them are just awesome people, KKL and Candace Bure being two excellent examples. Most will build relationships with special needs fans if for no other reason than it makes them look good, but I like to think they genuinely want to improve the quality of life for those of us with the severest of difficulties. And if they can use their status to bring a smile to someone and make them feel good, I have no problem with that. Just don’t confuse that with a similar friendship as with inner-circle acquaintances and family.

On that note, my big childhood hero Paul McCartney liked one of my tweets. So for all you celeb worshipers out there, eat THAT!

Sorry bout the delayed response, folks.

First off, I'm NOT a Troll. And second, I haven't seen Candace in person--YET--to answer one poster's question, but I shall NOT give up hope that I will see Candace in person someday.

When/if I do, in the event Candace DOES come to my Georgia hometown, I hope she'll recognize me despite my being in attendance JUST as an Audience Member--NOT as a "friend."

Besides, my fellow Auties, in my dealings and various responses--or talks as I refer them-- to Candace via Social Media, my best Philosophy in dealing with her--as with other public figures--is to treat such person with respect and dignity, just as anyone else would want to be treated. Think of that person--as I do with Candace-as a person FIRST, not a Public Figure/Celeb.

First of all I doubt very much shed cheat on her husband , even if the other guy was attractive

Second , how many fans marry celebs , only one I can think of was the girl who married Dylan from 90210 ?

Third , many celebs are self centered fools , image is one thing but private they could be very different (Hulk Hogan for example)

Yes. Kirk Cameron's known as an actor, not a young preacher (despite his evangelizing), and his sister is probably more famous than him. You're probably not going to find out about her through Kirk's webpage. Funny, though.

Praying isnt gonna help ya. Assuming this whole tale is true, break contact. Find someone else. If you can't break contact, kill the feelings. They wont help.

I have my doubts that it is true.