Hard to find love.

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Hi all,

Just wanted to express my feelings, i'm sure many people can relate!

ok so basically i'm a female, who's in my late 20s that feels depressed at times, I have anxiety and cannot stand crowded or noisy places and when I try to find local amenities or places, where I can go to meet people, or people with AS , their isn't many places like that available where I am, they often recommend travelling or going further afield.

Online, i've been approached by people on non dating sites that want to flirt, have cyber sex and are dodgy, not forgetting men that are older, old enough to be my dad or are probably in a relationship or married. It depresses me, what's worse is that, i'm told that I look and sound younger than my age, so I don't know why, only much older men try to flirt with me, I don't initiate anything, it's all been on sites like youtube!

I just want to potentially meet someone that is single, not abusive, liar or cheater, someone that is similar of age, near where I live and has similar hobbies to me but it's so hard to meet that special someone. Plus having anxiety doesn't help me either and when I try to go places, it's limited due to cut backs.

It's knocked my self confidence and self esteem.

Anyone else feel this way?


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I don't like public transport, again due to anxiety and crowds and it's going to take me a while to save up for a car, until then i'm limited.

I date men from dating sites. Even met friends on there so they're not just full of creeps so I would suggest trying online dating. Some people on there are creeps but so are people in real life, the biggest douche i've ever dated is the only man i've dated that I met in real life actually. Online i've mostly met lonley people and NTs I just haven't vibed with lol but also met great people and my most recent ex as well as a man i'm seeing right now. I have social anxiety so I never make first contact in person so if I refused online dating I would have been very isolated.

And well abusive people are everywhere, unfortunately, avoiding online dating doesn't mean you'll never meet one. It's a risk everyone takes in the quest for love.

Hey Superaliengirl,

Cool username btw. Thank you for replying! i'm glad to hear that you've had great experiences with online dating. You're right and good point about how we take that risk, for when it comes to love. I'm glad it has stopped you from feeling more isolated, thanks for sharing.