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cfleischmann
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19 Oct 2018, 2:13 am

Hello everyone:

I’ve noticed that I’m clingy as you’d not believe looking for a constant feed of hand holding, hugs, leg wrapping, etc. the instant I come out with it that I am transgender, primarily nonverbal, and autistic. All interaction stops as the result of this, I’m constantly clinging to those who haven’t left my side. However I’m planning within the next two five years to migrate all human relationships to RealDolls or Harmony smart doll if I could ever save up enough money. The reason for replacing human romance with RealDoll is the following:

1. The doll has no ulterior motives
2. The doll is always available
3. The doll won’t have external factors such as her parents or family convincing her to just leave without even a good bye. Thus saving the heartbreak.
4. The doll won’t play these stupid head games like adults humans do just for the sake of harming others emotionally. They expect you to know the rules then change the rules midway through.
5. The only other place I know where to get unconditional love like that is children[1] but that’s not a valid option.

[1] Note: that when I say that children give unconditional love I mean that they’re not intent on harming or playing these stupid head games like adults love to play. Further hugs and hand holding from children come with seemingly zero strings attached. Unless you count the fact that they expect to be loved and kept safe in return. But that’s easy.


Do you think I’m crazy?

External links:

Information about Harmony: https://youtu.be/-cN8sJz50Ng
Information about RealDoll: https://realdoll.com/
More information about Harmony: https://Realbotix.com/


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19 Oct 2018, 7:02 am

cfleischmann wrote:
Hello everyone:

I’ve noticed that I’m clingy as you’d not believe looking for a constant feed of hand holding, hugs, leg wrapping, etc. the instant I come out with it that I am transgender, primarily nonverbal, and autistic. All interaction stops as the result of this, I’m constantly clinging to those who haven’t left my side. However I’m planning within the next two five years to migrate all human relationships to RealDolls or Harmony smart doll if I could ever save up enough money. The reason for replacing human romance with RealDoll is the following:

1. The doll has no ulterior motives
2. The doll is always available
3. The doll won’t have external factors such as her parents or family convincing her to just leave without even a good bye. Thus saving the heartbreak.
4. The doll won’t play these stupid head games like adults humans do just for the sake of harming others emotionally. They expect you to know the rules then change the rules midway through.
5. The only other place I know where to get unconditional love like that is children[1] but that’s not a valid option.

[1] Note: that when I say that children give unconditional love I mean that they’re not intent on harming or playing these stupid head games like adults love to play. Further hugs and hand holding from children come with seemingly zero strings attached. Unless you count the fact that they expect to be loved and kept safe in return. But that’s easy.

I find children to be shrieking time bombs, crying at random, for random reasons or for no reason. But I'm one of those childfree people, so yeah.

What about dogs or cats? They have no ulterior motives; they just want to be fed, cared for, and left alone from time to time. They're always available for the most part, except when sleeping. They have no "external factors", unless you buy or adopt multiple siblings from the same litter. They don't play stupid head games, because, well, they're not human. And they're most certainly capable of unconditional love.

RealDolls? Eh... Underneath the amusement factor and the 24/7 availability, they're still inanimate objects.



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19 Oct 2018, 7:15 am

Aspie1 wrote:
cfleischmann wrote:
Hello everyone:

I’ve noticed that I’m clingy as you’d not believe looking for a constant feed of hand holding, hugs, leg wrapping, etc. the instant I come out with it that I am transgender, primarily nonverbal, and autistic. All interaction stops as the result of this, I’m constantly clinging to those who haven’t left my side. However I’m planning within the next two five years to migrate all human relationships to RealDolls or Harmony smart doll if I could ever save up enough money. The reason for replacing human romance with RealDoll is the following:

1. The doll has no ulterior motives
2. The doll is always available
3. The doll won’t have external factors such as her parents or family convincing her to just leave without even a good bye. Thus saving the heartbreak.
4. The doll won’t play these stupid head games like adults humans do just for the sake of harming others emotionally. They expect you to know the rules then change the rules midway through.
5. The only other place I know where to get unconditional love like that is children[1] but that’s not a valid option.

[1] Note: that when I say that children give unconditional love I mean that they’re not intent on harming or playing these stupid head games like adults love to play. Further hugs and hand holding from children come with seemingly zero strings attached. Unless you count the fact that they expect to be loved and kept safe in return. But that’s easy.

I find children to be shrieking time bombs, crying at random, for random reasons or for no reason. But I'm one of those childfree people, so yeah.

What about dogs or cats? They have no ulterior motives; they just want to be fed, cared for, and left alone from time to time. They're always available for the most part, except when sleeping. They have no "external factors", unless you buy or adopt multiple siblings from the same litter. They don't play stupid head games, because, well, they're not human. And they're most certainly capable of unconditional love.

RealDolls? Eh... Underneath the amusement factor and the 24/7 availability, they're still inanimate objects.


I’m not animal person


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19 Oct 2018, 7:09 pm

cfleischmann wrote:
I’m not animal person

Oh well. I rest my case, then.



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20 Oct 2018, 10:17 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
cfleischmann wrote:
I’m not animal person

Oh well. I rest my case, then.


I’m normally one of those childfree people. But if the child is well mannered and not a “screamling” as one of my support people calls them, I know the parents, and physical contact has been appreciated by parent(s), and child. I’ll hug and hand hold with the child until either 1) child wants to be let go or 2) I must leave.

Note that all interactions with children are held in view of parent(s) and recorded to avoid any false accusations of misconduct as it’s happened before where my hand holding and hugs were perceived not as a seeking of sensory input[^1] and companionship[^2] but as something completely different by the parent who had one too many drinks. Funny thing the kid was on the spectrum.

Notes: [^1] kids give some of the best hugs thus supplying that pressure I like. Plus they cling to my legs at random fun. [^2]. I’m a kid at heart so companionship is mandatory since the most of adults don’t understand me but children could care less whether or not I have a label of autism or what have you. They’re truly equal opportunity companions.


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20 Oct 2018, 11:50 pm

cfleischmann wrote:
Notes: [^1] kids give some of the best hugs thus supplying that pressure I like. Plus they cling to my legs at random fun. [^2]. I’m a kid at heart so companionship is mandatory since the most of adults don’t understand me but children could care less whether or not I have a label of autism or what have you. They’re truly equal opportunity companions.

I prefer to get my hugs from women friends. And formerly, escorts. (Close male friends get bro-hugs.) The best kind of hugs are when a woman presses into me with a noticeable squeeze, but also hangs limp, in a way (think rag doll or cat), which makes me feel valued and strong. The hugs are better still, when she's similar to me in size. My friend who's a woman actually hugs me like that, and women I met on a cruise several years ago hugged me like that too.

As for physical interaction with kids, like hugs or handholds, I limit those to kids in my extended family (which there aren't any right now). Other kids get only conversations and handshakes. Because I, as a man, have much less leeway in interacting with kids than a woman does, and hugging a child comes with a height/size mismatch. Not to mention, I don't really like kids to begin with; but with that said, I give them the same politeness I expect from them. Kids high school age or older are fine, because I can talk to them as near-equals without coming off as insincere or patronizing.