Just got directly invited to a part by a female coworker!

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This never happened to me! What is she up to? Why would she invite me?

Do you mean party?

Did you accept?

Because she wants you to come to her party?

Try not to overthink it.
Maybe you'll even enjoy yourself.

Still, I think it's great.

I've never been to a Halloween party, not even sure what you do at one (Halloween isn't popular where I live).
Do you have to dress up or anything?

It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s interested if that what you are thinking; you both work for the same company and that’s a company party.

Reading too much into things seems to be a common theme around here. She invited you to this party because she thinks you should be there. That doesn't mean she wants to sleep with you.

What kind of party is this? Is it a department outing after work, with a simple meal, a group activity like bowling, and maybe drinks? Or is it a private party at a coworker's home, with drinks, music, and hanging out? (Events during the day fall under the work scope, and usually paid time.)

If it's the former, do not, under any circumstances, view her actions as romantic interest. She was nice enough to invite you and socialize with you; don't abuse the privilege. Plus, department outings fall under the HR scope, and HR always takes the woman's side. If it's the latter, you have a little bit more leeway. But given the black-and-white aspie thinking, I'm sure you're looking for a blanket rule. So I'll give you one: don't react to this woman's invitation any differently than if a male coworker invited you. In other words, show up, bring a dish or a six-pack, fit in the best you can, limit your drinking, and have a fun night.

if its any consolation, i received one such message from a girl at uni, could clearly see she was with another guy and i wasn't into her at all, but instead of a party it was the freshers nightclub and kept persuading me to come with so eventually I did, but me being introverted and all, only spent 30 minutes mingling with my drink sat on my own and eventually left, was approached by another girl mind you but nothing ever came of it. Never went to another nightclub since, not my scene, especially parties.

She obviously thinks you ought to «socialise» more and this is an opportunity for you to «celebrate» with other people who will be at said pah-tay. Also, you got invited by a co-worker, and it was indirect. Putting the word «female» before the co-worker term... well... I just think that is unnecessary. Anyway... find out if you can bring a friend or two.