I’m in a Weird Situation

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I’m dating a girl that has also been dating another guy off and on since early this year. She is dating me and him at the same time, this is my first stint and this is his third. She hasn’t told the other guy that she is dating me, yet all of her friends knows about the other guy, and they don’t know that she is also dating me. I know I’m the guy on the side and she is having second thoughts about the other guy. And I can’t tell anyone about me and her dating for over two months.

Your guys take?

keep seeing her on the side, and date other girls as well.

in romantic relationships, I try to keep the field as level as possible, because it is too easy for one person to become more attached than the other.

if you are her side option, you could make her your side option as well

That is a truly ridiculous situation to be in and you should get a different girl. Don't be her plan be or her cuckhold. Even if you were to give her an ultimatum now that she must choose you or him and she chooses you, you will already know that she is the kind of person who can casually see another guy behind your back and not feel bad about it (I am assuming that you already consider yourself boyfriend and girlfriend - please correct me if I am wrong as that would change things).

Like the person above, I would recommend still seeing her on the side while finding another girl and then, once you have found another girl, leave the one you are currently dealing with. You are the Plan B backup guy on the side right now so don't think for a second that you won't get dumped as soon as this girl locks down a guy whom she is attracted to enough to be faithful to and who will not tolerate being cheated on.

This is just me talking but I don't think you should tolerate being the side guy or being cheated on, especially when it is bothering you as it must be (otherwise why would you ask this question here?).

Stop seeing her altogether or start seeing other people as well. Watch you don't get meningitis!

Also, wear a rubber and, if she suddenly "finds out" that she is pregnant and claims that it is yours, remember:

1. Buy her 3 new home pregnancy tests and stand outside the bathroom while she uses them (so she does not use a positive test that she bought online - yes that is a thing, the world is a dark and scary place)

2. Demand a DNA test

3. A pregnancy test cannot tell you accurately whether or not you are pregnant until about 14 days after intercourse. So, if she is telling you that she is pregnant with your baby 3 days after you guys did the deed, she is just trying to hook you for financial support because it is looking like the real dad will not or cannot provide it.

You know what, just get out of there and stop thinking about this girl. Stop doing this to yourself.