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11 Nov 2018, 1:09 am

I matched with this cute girl off Tinder and out all of the girls I matched on that app. I messaged with her the most, we went to snapchat and I had a good vibe from her that she is kind hearted. We eventually met each other and I still had the good vibe from her but thats all I felt, a good vibe. But that doesn't seem to matter to me and my obsession. She eventually moved on from me but I am still trying to keep a connection with attempt after attempt after attempt and so on. The reason why I want to be with her so bad is because of the idea of being with her, not actually because I felt a connection after weeks of chatting and talking in a one on one situation. Like if my bullies from my former high school saw me with her, they would be impressed. She seems to be the type of girl that my mom tells me she wants me to be with. So the idea of being with this cute girl next door chick made me had hope that I will finally stop being lonely with this amazing girl. Again thats all it is, a idea not a personally connection. And I can't over it no matter how hard I try. Sorry for my poor grammar btw. Any ideas on what I should do?



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11 Nov 2018, 3:54 am

This is absurd. You've just said she's moved on from you, and that you're not interested in her as a person. Obviously you should move on.



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11 Nov 2018, 6:24 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
This is absurd. You've just said she's moved on from you, and that you're not interested in her as a person. Obviously you should move on.
Maybe he cant or doesn't know how to move on. Moving on is alot easier said than done sometimes.


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11 Nov 2018, 12:54 pm

what traits about her did you really like? make a note of these traits, and be on the lookout for said traits in the next girls that you meet.

it'll help you get some value out of the experience, which can help with moving on.

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11 Nov 2018, 4:32 pm

nick007 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
This is absurd. You've just said she's moved on from you, and that you're not interested in her as a person. Obviously you should move on.
Maybe he cant or doesn't know how to move on. Moving on is alot easier said than done sometimes.


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11 Nov 2018, 4:32 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
what traits about her did you really like? make a note of these traits, and be on the lookout for said traits in the next girls that you meet.

it'll help you get some value out of the experience, which can help with moving on.

good luck!


Thank you for the help!