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Redoctober
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30 Oct 2018, 6:10 pm

Hi everyone, I recently broke up with my gf. It was a long distance relationship. I'm American and she is Japanese. I have a strong interest in japan and it's culture. I was thrilled when I got to date my gf. She is my first gf i ever had. We have differences in terms of values and views. I'm eastern orthodox and she is atheist. I broke up with her over these things. But also i started to desire other women and thought negatively about my gf. So I broke up with her. Now I'm missing her. I don't know if we should date again. I'm not sure if I even love her. I have always had a hard time connecting and bonding to people. (I'm autistic) I'm not sure if I loved the fact that I had a gf especially a japanese woman. Or i did truly love her. I need advice.



kraftiekortie
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30 Oct 2018, 6:14 pm

I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

I feel the best thing to do is to seek someone else. Especially if you explicitly broke up with her.



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30 Oct 2018, 6:21 pm

I think it is normal to have some regret at breaking up. Once that person is gone, you can feel lonely. Unless you had a magical connection with this person, and apparently you don't because you say you don't even know if you love her, it is time to move on. Use this experience to make the next one better. My 2c.


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