Real love

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I need to be with a man one day who really could care for me. Not just my body. The whole package.
It seems that men aren't into commitment anymore.
I know there has to be a good man out there.
I'm gonna learn not to rush into the physical and not let anyone take advantage of me by manipulating.
Any advice on that?

It takes a lot of time for any guy to fully consider someone's needs.

What does 'commitment' mean?

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Some men are into commitment, but we just can't find any serious women. It seems like many on dating sites are out to find the perfect guy and won't even consider anyone else for a date.

Stop looking at the pretty guys with shallow words on their profiles and look at the ones who has a serious profile.

It means wanting to marry after getting to know her. Really wanting to stick it out together even though bad times. Not letting any excuses get in the way. No playing games, and having responsibilities together.

I think many men say they will, but want to rush or don't know what they want. That's on both sides at times.

Also, many people down marriage now for any number of things.

^^^Plus, the excuse of, "Let's have sex before to see what it's like when we are married," is stupid to me cause if you really love a person it won't be based on sex. That's just one thing in a million.

There is no simple solution except to insist in real and strong love. The problem with real love is that both have to cause each other the strong emotions until they become the nicest thing in the world for each other.
Always look in his eyes and read carefully his mind before getting closer to somebody. Skip anybody immediately if you recognize something dishonest or bad in his eyes. Easy? No.



I can tell you what they want. Sex - what else? And because the girls are into marriage they just tell this way to have sex. The words don't count anything because it's just something they have to babble to get the girl into the bed. I think that girls who are that way deserve such s**t heads. Most people are just idiots. Women should insist in love instead in marriage and be less calculating. This all reminds me to a strange night once in a disco where a girl realized this ... do you like strange stories?

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I defiantly was looking for commitement when wanting a relationship. I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & not into sex outside of a serious romantic realtionship but seemed like lots of women were jumping into the sack as soon as they saw a guy they liked or something about him they liked. That wasn't my problem with getting women thou, I couldn't even get a date due to lots of disabilities. Women much rathered use me an an emotionally supportive friend they could turn to to complain to when other guys used them.

[quote= I think that girls who are that way deserve such s**t heads. [/quote]

I don't necessarily agree with that. Some women were groomed (manipulated, taught by a relative, someone they were raised by, someone that should've been a trusted protective individual, to believe that sex is what they need or what a man really wants and is equal to love, in order to use them as a toy or sell them into prostitution from a young age).

It's hard to get over such programming unless there is a good example to follow, someone who helps that person to see the truth. And, in those cases it's not the woman who was at fault for that. It's her needing to learn different. And, not necessarily deserving a man who will still use and abuse her like she grew up with, thinking that use and abuse was love.

I have personal experience with that.

Why?

Why does any woman “need” to be with a man?

(Or a man with a woman, or a woman with a woman, et cetera)

I think you should examine your “need” and find out why you have it.

Thoughtful advice.

I put need as when there is a man like that, that sort of love is what I truly need from him and want to give.
Not just need want.

I may be getting from you that I may not necessarily need a man in my life.
That is true.
I would however like a good man if he does come along and we click or get along together.

^^^
As for need,
love may be what I need in my life.
Not just from other people, but in me.

Funnily enough I was thinking about this today. I can't find anyone to commit either. I can't even get anyone to "Go steady" with me, I'm not even talking about marriage at this point.

I get interest. The guy seems to be attracted to me. But it never, ever goes anywhere.

Stop looking at the guys with profiles.

What do you think is 'real love' and what causes it? Just feeling attracted? Getting married? Having Sex? Getting a commitment? Or just wanting someone special to be always with you because he or she is the most wonderful person on earth who makes you feel high and totally happy as soon as he or she is near to you and who feels the same towards you? Are you really looking for the right thing?

I am aware that love isn't physical.

Why ask so many questions when you may have the answer?

I've already wrote what I see love is.
A real relationship has to have it to work on both sides. Forgiveness is a part of this.
Commitment is important for making it worthwhile.
Being kind to one another if possible.
Love is more than just a person.
I just want to be w someone where love is what we are for each other.

I'm aware I cannot force this.

I just would like to see people who are good role models also.
Or learn from one.
Or find that strength in myself.
If it all works together.

I do believe love is alive and honest and doesn't harm itself.

That's all I'll say. Cause I can go on with it.