Messaging A Man

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Is it better to wait for his reply before writing him again? I know if women write too many messages or texts before the guy get back to you, he can lose interest in you.

She means that she wrote him and wants to write again, but isn't sure if she should wait for his reply to the first message.

Yes, you're probably better off waiting for his reply. Otherwise, he'll think you're very needy or codependent.

People over think these issues...if the guy loses interest over a few messages than he was probably not for you...otoh if you compulsively message him without waiting for him to engage in the conversation he is pretty likely to decide you are not for him...either way you are better off than if you modified your behavior to attract his attention then later discovered some other incompatibility that is fatal to the relationship...just be yourself!

how does he message? like does he send you a few messages in succession? or does he send you one message then wait for your reply?

if he messages a lot he probably won't mind if you do, too.

I’m really trying hard to be patience. He is a teacher, he very busy during the week, he also writes.

It depends.
If you just wrote him a few minutes ago, sending the same question again or sending "Why don't you reply to me" is a very bad idea. Even if it's been several hours you can't expect everyone to always check their smartphone or computer. People can be busy. Anything that indicates you're getting annoyed with him not replying fast enough, even though his reasons not to do so may be perfectly valid, is a bad idea.
You should only send a question again or ask if he has gotten your message, if it is really urgent - if there can be negative consequences or you may be wasting a lot of time unless you get a reply on time.
But if it's been a longer time than he'd plausibly take, maybe assume that he forgot about answering before you assume he's ghosting you. Getting to know each other can't work if everyone is being rigid and stubborn, playing strategy games and treating the other as the enemy instead of their (potential) partner. In that case, yes write again. Of course, don't be in denial if he's really ignoring you, just don't assume it at the tiniest indication.

I don't see a reason why you shouldn't send a different message unrelated to your first just because he hasn't replied yet. Just don't cover him in messages.

Everyone is different, some will go nuts if you write too early, some won't. Some will take it as an interest, and some will see you as needy.

When i write to a girl, i wait 24 hours, if she haven't answered by then (and she has been online since then), i guess she's not interested and block her to prevent wasting more time.

Kitty, considering that about 1/4 of the posts on the first page of this category were started by you, you need a man that will be ok with you messaging him as much as you want. So if he gets upset over you sending an extra message, he clearly would not be the right guy for you. Just do what comes natural to you so that you find one that makes you happy, one where you don't have to worry about what you are doing and will like you for you.