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you date someone for 2 months (including physical involvement)

both of you reply to and initiate texts regularly.

then silence (about 3x beyond previous communication intervals).

it's getting to the point where i am concerned for the well being for this person, but if he's trying to get rid of me i don't want to be the dolt who can't take a hint.

nothing else that i can think of would have hinted that he wanted to break up / things weren't going well.

anyways, what would you do this situation?

Call him right now and say, *Dude, what's up?* or a derivative


expect the worst but hope for the best,

If your partner is an Aspie, it's possible he may be going through something & needs more time to himself. He may also just be caught up in something like a special interest. It seems extremely common for Aspies to withdraw some after they've been in a relationship for a while for various reasons. They just need more time to themselves in general than the typical NT. I'm actually the opposite thou & become obsessed with my partner & LOVE being around her.

Maybe it’s the beginning of ghosting.

I hope things will work out.

looks hopeful XD

turns out nick hit the nail on the head.

thanks for your support guys!

Good,at least someone getting a happy ending. The guy I’m talking to on OkCupid, he has not talked to me in 3 days, he been coming online without talking to me, I’m worried that he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. When we talked last Thursday, he told me he still want to talk to me & he put a smiley face on the message, he can put alot of smiley faces in messages & when he said goodnight, he tells me sweet dreams.

Anyway I’m happy for you

Glad to know it’s working for you. I had my stock response locked and loaded, but instinct kicked in and someone gave you better than what I had.

I can’t really add much here, so here are some generic observations that you might find applicable down the road:

If marriage is where you want to end up, watch out for any fizzling around the 2-month mark. It could be a sign that it’s not meant to be.

Once you pass the 3-month mark, you need to ask yourself if you see yourself getting married in the next year. If not, it might be time to start cooling things off and have the “let’s be friends” talk.

For me, the trick was my wife and I really were such tight friends all along. It wasn’t about being “in love” as much as it was just not wanting to be with anyone else. So if you’re already past the “honeymoon phase” of being his gf, don’t panic. Being settled in a stable relationship is not the same thing as being in a relationship that has taken a bad turn and you need to end it. But it can feel like you lose the “sparks.” Don’t worry so much about the spark, and focus more on better reasons why you should be with this person.

thanks for the pointers angelrho. i will keep it in mind for future.

we did end up breaking up in the end.

i don't know when i'll start lookIng again, i just need time to be sad right now.

but i will try again, it's pathetic but i really want to fall in love

I’m sorry it didn’t work out

What happened? I'm sorry this happened to you. You seem like a nice woman.

He decided I wasn't what he wanted.

It's okay, I'd rather have someone who loves me than who settles for me.

I'm doing the web chats along side kitty now lol.

Do you mean dating apps? You said you want to wait. I only had one boyfriend,when we broke up, it took me a VERY LONG time to get over him, I found out he was cheating on me.

I am so sorry. Absolutely take a week or so to let it pass. A month if you need it.

Look at it as a positive experience, though. All relationships will eventually end. Remember, statistics show half of marriages end in divorce; the other half end in death!

All it means is you’re one relationship closer to having something that will last. For most people these days, there’s someone you know that you can possibly start a relationship with. If that describes you, I see no need in waiting around very long before going out again.

Whichever path you feel the need to take, you win either way. You are an amazing woman and worthy of love. We’re looking forward to getting good news from you soon! =D