HELP!

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Two men want me, I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to hurt anyone.

You haven't made any commitment. Just talk to both of them.

You don't have to tell one that you're talking to the other.

Just make sure they don't send you any "dick" pictures.

Your recent experiences should convince you that there's no guarantee that any prospective flame will work out. So it's not unethical for you to entertain both fellas. It's only a matter of time before one of them drops out.

Maybe ask them both to play ball (not necessarily at the same time).

It's like that old song: Torn between two lovers / Feeling like a fool / Loving both of you is breaking all the rules...

EDIT: ...or like that even older song: Help! I need somebody. Help! Not just anybody. Help! You know, I need someone, HELP!

Talk to both for now until you have good reason to believe it could work out with one, which could be a while.

They "want" you? That's a seriously creepy word. You aren't chattel.

Just because they "want" you doesn't mean they are good men or that they care about you. Nor does it mean you need to "want" them or care about them. I'd recommend meeting them both, or ditching them both.

Kitty, do you have anyone that you really trust preferably in person, that you could look through matches with before you get attached?
Who will give you real feed back on their intentions?

Just be safe. Good luck, I hope one of them works out.

Let them play Rock–paper–scissors, and the winner will be your boyfriend.

Now there three men. What if I want to talk to one of them. What will I say to the other men.

Don’t tell each man you’re talking to other men.

I just wish you could meet somebody in your city.

Agree with kraftie. You haven’t committed to anything with anyone. Talk to/see who ever you want.

Certain WP members are adamant that you should just go one person at a time, but I just think that’s useless. If I were single and looking, I wouldn’t advertise that I’m seeing other women. I’d just let them draw their own conclusions, but people don’t really want to know that kind of thing.

Now suppose you spend every weekend with one guy in particular. I’d say after a month, you like the guy, and you aren’t really all that interested in other guys, you might ask outright if he’s seeing anyone else and whether you’re “a thing.” The customary “I love you” and all that goes with it is plenty appropriate at this point.

Talk to both, and if one fizzles out you have your answer. I've had things fizzle out, but on the flipside I've helped maintain some Snapchat snapstreaks.

You haven't met any of these men and you are on a site that allows chatting. Why wouldn't you tell them you are chatting with a few people, if you are? Why the need to keep secrets? These aren't your boyfriends and 100% guaranteed they are talking to other women / men as well.

I communicate with more than one guy on WP, and they all know about the others. I know WP is not a dating site, but regardless what's the point in secrecy?

I still say you need to meet them (and more than once if you like them), before you can make any decisions at all.

If they actually said they "want" you, like you claimed in the first post, just wave goodbye and move on. That's gross.