Flirting or being funny?

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This person and I were talking in an office. All of a sudden he said, "It's hot in here. How did it get so hot?" I just sat there and kind of shrugged. He pulled at his jacket and shirt. Then, he said again about how hot it was a couple of times. Then, he said, "I should take my shirt off. But, that would be inappropriate here wouldn't it?" I just said, "I'm confused." And, I think he replied, "Yeah."

Was he flirting or just trying to be funny?

Those kind of interactions confuse me.
Maybe because I thought he was hot.

At work? Was this a co-worker or a superior? It’s inappropriate either way.

Well, he didn't actually take his shirt off, so I wouldn't really say he did anything inappropriate.

Unless the room you two were in actually was hot, than I would say for sure that he was flirting. Don't be suprised if he asks you out on a date soon. If you like him, ask him out before he gets that chance

Even if he didn't actually take his shirt off surely it's inappropriate to joke about taking shirts off in the office?

To your question, it sounds like he was flirting, albeit very strangely. If he was actually that hot he would have just done something about it instead of vocalizing it like that to another person.

It's inappropriate to say. I mean, to go on and on about it like that and she's not taking the hint.

If she actually LIKES the guy, then she can move forward and go out with the guy, but still...if you're interested in someone, just say so.

NT or ND so many people are so odd about flirting. I would guess he may have been testing the waters, trying to see if you think he's attractive. He may have just been trying to talk with you but didn't really know how to do it or go about it.

Not so much in the USA. To joke or flirt about such in a somewhat private conversation at work isn't odd. (I've heard about some really inappropriate things that happen in the work place that seems rather common) If he'd said SHE could take her shirt off or didn't drop it after she said she was confused, that would have been inappropriate.

Though if caThar4G had been really uncomfortable she entirely would have had and does have the right to tell him or anyone else that she felt the conversation was inappropriate. It's one of those things where it's her call to make IMO

I was actually a client there. But, he was a worker that was temporarily helping me get two clothes vouchers.
That's what kind of makes it weird to me.
I don't know if I'll see him again.
I may because I may go back.
I didn't like him particularly. I didn't get long enough to find out.
I just met him.
I did think he was hot though.

Sounds like one of those insecure NT's who has to use a line to come on to you instead of just being foward and saying: "hey, wanna go out and have a bit of food together: me, you and no one else?"

Clarity is important, even some NT's don't get that.

Sometimes, trying to paint a "mental picture" can be good: A girl i talked to mentioned that she wanted "someone to fight with over who is going to take out the trash when i'm old". I understood perfectly that she wanted a looooooong term relationship. May or may not work with other people on this forum.