Do you feel people direspect your nerd/geek nature?

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Like do you feel you are treated like a subhuman because of that?

How does it affect your dating life in specific?

Explicit examples please!

Yes & no. The general inclination is probably towards respect by this point, though honest respect calls for more understanding on both sides.

It depends who I'm with.

Some people totally don't get it, so I just don't talk about my interests around them. I had a lonely few years when I had to not be completely myself around people.

In 2019 mostly I do have geeky friends.

Even my non-geeky friends will come along to museums and art galleries with me... occasionally.

For whatever it's worth, anyone can be respectful if they are introduced to all these tricky concepts respectfully.

I didn’t know that art and museums are considered geeky/nerdy stuff. :-/

Oh yeah. Regular people like shopping, wine, beer, getting their nails painted, football, soap operas, gossiping and decorating their houses and that's what they talk about.

British culture is pretty low in general.

I've always prefered dating nerds, so... not really

People sometimes have hard time accepting my social awkwardness but since I employed obviously geeky style of checked shirts and large eyeglasses, people seem to be more prepared to that possibility and show more patience

And going out to eat.

I plan to go to two museums this year, a railway one (research for my book set in 1920) and The Royal Armoury.

I will go to both alone. Even when I went to the National Gallery (art) with my Mum, who goes all over the world

looking at museums, she'd had enough after half an hour So day two in London we separated and I spent a

nice three hours in the Science Museum.

I'm half geek half cool and half funny.

People take that as it is

You are one and a half people.

I don't think this is British specific at all.

exactly

I have no beef with geeks or nerds , the small amount of friends I have had were always geeky or nerdy , that's why I got on with them.

I don't see myself as a geek/nerd but my GF does

I do to myself. I wish I had street smarts and had common sense. If I had that then more people would get along with me more. I would no longer be a whiner, but a winner. Among nerds and geeks I wish I was more book smart and more academic and actually brighter.

another feeling thread
when its established you don't know them, by criteria

after long reflexion
its that they FEEL disrespected
all the effort they put into their act
and you just don't
you devaluate and mock their castle of pretence
when they put in all that 'keeping up appearances'
not only you disrepect them and their effort
but their whole existance

mediocracy is disguised as meritocracy,
pleasing the middle counts, not standing alone or out

I'm much more of a dork than a nerd or geek. I don't have any of the skills or talents the ladder two have & I only have a few of the interests they have but I have all the social awkwardness & probably plus some that they are stereotyped to have. I think i would of had better luck if I was a nerd or geek because I would have some skills that would make me more employable & I would of had a subculture group I'd belong to so I would of had something going for me. When I mentioned Aspergers on dating sites, the only women who messaged me were expecting me to be fairly successful working in the technology field which I was not due to not having those skills/talents & i never heard from them again 1ce I told them I wasn't.