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21 Jun 2020, 12:23 pm

I consider myself very lucky to be married to someone on the spectrum. We get each other pretty well :)

Is anyone else here married to a fellow aspie?



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21 Jun 2020, 10:55 pm

*raises hand*

:mrgreen:

In a relationship, not married
He's pretty damn well perfect though :lol:


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22 Jun 2020, 1:56 am

Chain wrote:
I consider myself very lucky to be married to someone on the spectrum. We get each other pretty well :)

Is anyone else here married to a fellow aspie?


I luv myself profoundly,
But I have an aversion to commitment,
So, no. :mrgreen:

BTW,
Do you have kids?



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22 Jun 2020, 2:21 am

I notice a pattern here: A lot of married men here are married with women of cultures different than theirs - in case the wife is not aspie.



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22 Jun 2020, 2:43 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I notice a pattern here: A lot of married men here are married with women of cultures different than theirs - in case the wife is not aspie.


I think Teach's Aspie boyfriend is the same culture as her, both Israeli



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22 Jun 2020, 3:33 am

cyberdad wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I notice a pattern here: A lot of married men here are married with women of cultures different than theirs - in case the wife is not aspie.


I think Teach's Aspie boyfriend is the same culture as her, both Israeli


Let's list :P:
cyberdad's wife => Indian
Fnord's wife => from an Asian country, as he mentioned before.
Retro's partner => Chinese
"The hamster with iron helmet" guy's partner => I recall he mentioned he married someone from a Spanish-talking culture.
Most of my exes were foreigners too.
I am not sure of Kraftie's wife, I think they're the same culture.
Pepe's partner: An extraterrestrial alien :mrgreen: .

I remember I have seen more but can't recall who.

I wonder if this is due to the fact that aspies are more likely to prefer online communication, hence more likely to encounter foreigners.



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22 Jun 2020, 3:40 am

Kraftie's wife is African-American



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22 Jun 2020, 4:27 am

Chain wrote:
I consider myself very lucky to be married to someone on the spectrum. We get each other pretty well :)

Is anyone else here married to a fellow aspie?

My life partner is on the spectrum and we get eachother pretty well too :)


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22 Jun 2020, 4:55 am

cyberdad wrote:
Kraftie's wife is African-American


Not counted, same country.



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22 Jun 2020, 5:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I notice a pattern here: A lot of married men here are married with women of cultures different than theirs - in case the wife is not aspie.


I think Teach's Aspie boyfriend is the same culture as her, both Israeli


Let's list :P:
cyberdad's wife => Indian
Fnord's wife => from an Asian country, as he mentioned before.
Retro's partner => Chinese
"The hamster with iron helmet" guy's partner => I recall he mentioned he married someone from a Spanish-talking culture.
Most of my exes were foreigners too.
I am not sure of Kraftie's wife, I think they're the same culture.
Pepe's partner: An extraterrestrial alien :mrgreen: .

I remember I have seen more but can't recall who.

I wonder if this is due to the fact that aspies are more likely to prefer online communication, hence more likely to encounter foreigners.


I believe KK is married to a coloured person, but presumably of the same "culture".
My memory isn't the best tho.



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22 Jun 2020, 5:32 am

cyberdad wrote:
Kraftie's wife is African-American


That is what I remember him saying.



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22 Jun 2020, 5:34 am

Amity wrote:
Chain wrote:
I consider myself very lucky to be married to someone on the spectrum. We get each other pretty well :)

Is anyone else here married to a fellow aspie?

My life partner is on the spectrum and we get eachother pretty well too :)


I have always thought aspies should marry aspies.
Less misunderstandings.



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22 Jun 2020, 5:36 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
*raises hand*

:mrgreen:

In a relationship, not married
He's pretty damn well perfect though :lol:


:scratch: What the?
We have never even met in person. 8O



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22 Jun 2020, 6:49 am

Pepe wrote:
Amity wrote:
Chain wrote:
I consider myself very lucky to be married to someone on the spectrum. We get each other pretty well :)

Is anyone else here married to a fellow aspie?

My life partner is on the spectrum and we get eachother pretty well too :)


I have always thought aspies should marry aspies.
Less misunderstandings.

A lot less. No translations to NT-ese needed, just understanding. The closest to misunderstandings is usually a simple miscommunication and resolved instantly. More analytical, less emotional at key moments, less drama.


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22 Jun 2020, 7:06 am

Amity wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Amity wrote:
Chain wrote:
I consider myself very lucky to be married to someone on the spectrum. We get each other pretty well :)

Is anyone else here married to a fellow aspie?

My life partner is on the spectrum and we get eachother pretty well too :)


I have always thought aspies should marry aspies.
Less misunderstandings.

A lot less. No translations to NT-ese needed, just understanding. The closest to misunderstandings is usually a simple miscommunication and resolved instantly. More analytical, less emotional at key moments, less drama.


I was with a "GF", on and off, for around 10 years.
I'm sure she was on the spectrum.
She denied it.
Ultimately, we weren't compatible.
Such is life. <shrug>



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22 Jun 2020, 8:45 am

My wife is an Afro-Caribbean NT. With two gay sons.