Great examples of subtle hints from females

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So, you Aspie guys: have you ever had any of the following "whoops, I missed that 'obvious' hint" experience, with the regret in hindsight? I can honestly say things like these have happened to me on more than one occasion...although I've long since been married with a family after those days in the '90s...

Some of them just flat-out don't make sense or seem questionable, though. Like the one below, why did this girl have to add "I forgot something", when she could have just said "let's go back to my hotel room", I mean, it's not like she had her friends around to judge her for the "slut factor"... and then she shuns the guy just because he actually *believed* she had forgotten something in her room...that's why females need their own instruction manual as they say especially for guys like us

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"On a trip with a high school sport team, I had a huge crush on a girl on the team. Long story short we start making out in the hotel in a crowded room. She says we should go back to her room because she forgot something. We go back, she sprawls on the bed. I proceed to get on my hands and knees to look for the thing she forgot. We never had sex."

She added "because I forgot something," in case he said no to sex. So she had a fall back in case he said no so she wouldn't feel embarrassed at being rejected.

She was probably really embarrassed when she saw him actually looking for the thing and felt rejected. So embarrassed that she couldn't talk to him again.

Girls have feelings too.

She shouldn’t feel rejected. He just took things too literally.

Like didn't he notice that she sprawled on the bed?

There are guys who don’t notice that.

I might not have noticed before I was sexually experienced. I was that oblivious.

She doesn't know that though.

I interpreted women saying "Lets just be friends" as meaning they were only interested in friendship with me instead of "Lets be friends now & see where it goes". I've had women get mad at me on more than one occasion after saying that when I made a comment about still trying to find someone or still being lonely or something like a week later. This happened on a few occasions is exactly why I'm much better off in a realtionship with someone on the spectrum.

I was once at a work related function when I was 18. Someone rented a room in the nearby hotel. There was a female coworker there who tried to get me alone for a "drink" in a private room. I told her I wasn't 19 yet and couldn't drink (she was). I never clued in to the fact that a young woman doesn't just invite a young man into a private area with a bed for no reason. I also had another female coworker literally throw herself into my arms claiming she was practicing her cheerleading. To be fair I wasn't really interested in her but how oblivious can you get?

One thing I should mention was that once I went to a work function (when I was single) that didn't really require formal dress but I decided to put my best suit on. There was no doubt women were interested in me and one even started very blatantly hitting on me even though she was in a relationship and making very forward (but not sleazy or inappropriate) remarks on what she thought of me.

While my crazy ex told me that women flirted with me all the time I didn't pay much attention to it on the account she was borderline insane. However, my wife has also stated that women frequently check me out to the point it makes her both uncomfortable and proud to have such a good catch compared to her female friends. It begs the question: even as a married man who obviously lives with a woman full time how oblivious am I? I am sure back in the day a woman could have stripped naked, thrown herself at me repeatedly and I would have replied "oh my, you were getting ready for a shower and slipped. Again. Good thing I was here to catch you."

Boy....did I miss "signs" all over the place!

I could have lost my virginity when I was 16. We had just seen the movie "The Turning Point." And we were making out in an elevator in her apartment building. Then, I saw the time, and said I had to get home for curfew.

I should have just forgotten the curfew, taken the consequences. and went further with this girl.

I didn't quite understand that she wanted to "have" me. She was quite perturbed when I told her I had to go home for curfew. She called me a few piquant names.

I never saw her again.

I will never understand why women use hints and mind-games to get what they want when they can just ask for it.

A guy complained once because I didn’t play mind-games. LOL

With that being said, guys play mind-games, too.

You never noticed this is an autism forum?

No, we just lie and tell jokes.

I have a different interpretation. It's my understanding that women are basically raised to believe there's something wrong with them if they actually want sex. At least until they meet the man they are to marry, and then only after their love for him has been sanctified in the wedding ceremony. So they are taught to be ashamed of any desire for sex that deviates from that ideal. As a consequence, it's difficult for most women (especially very young ones, and these stories typically involve very young women) to directly voice a desire for sex. So they try to create a situation in which the guy they're hot for will make a move (leaving them with the option to reject said move). Looking at it this way, I wouldn't say that it's really a "mind game".

How old are you?

I'm in my mid-30s and that seems very archaic and not my generation's view at all. I'm also British, so this May be an American thing.

The conservatives in the US do tend to push abstinence only education & teach that premarital sex is a sin but alot of the younger generation is trying to rebel against what they were taught or had pushed onto them.