Don’t know if I should use Facebook Dating or not

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My therapist told me about Facebook Dating one of the last times I saw her but I forgot about it until today. I don’t know if I should try it or not. Back when I used Facebook more often (I hardly touch it these days), they were affiliated with a site called Zoosk and I tried it during a summer where I had accounts on multiple dating sites. It was completely unproductive and made me burned out on even trying to get a date for a long time. I have a feeling this app will be no different.

Facebook is Spyware. Don't use Spyware.

I think why Zoosk didn’t work was because I wasn’t a macho man or a “suave” guy. Oddly, I have been told my face looks “cute” but why do I still get rejected or overlooked for some other guy?

Worth a try, but I wouldn't expect the results to be any better than other dating sites.

This is like trying to make a half court shot. You just gotta keep trying no matter how many times you miss.

It feels like I can’t put in any effort towards getting a relationship no matter what I do or try. I am also staying up late even on college nights.

Yes, that is a hazard, and actually I'm alarmed your therapist is recommending an option which could drain your energy and your self-esteem.

If I had a penny for every time someone had recommended internet dating to me, I'd be so wealthy that women would be throwing themselves at me irrespective of my appearance or personality (probably not the kind of women I'd want...).

I did try it for a while but I came to the following conclusion: If you aren't very good at flirting in real life, you may find you're no more successful at it in cyberspace.

So you are absolutely right to query whether this thing could do you more harm than good.

However, if you get on well with your therapist then I have no right to challenge something he or she may have suggested: no offence meant.

For me the whole idea of meeting a stranger for the express purpose of "A Date" feels wrong. I need to know them first, before I can decide if I might be interested in them in that way. But you may feel differently about that.