Physical Intimacy....

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06 Nov 2019, 1:33 am

I’m a female with mild Aspergers, so I try to stay away from touching, but I don’t mind being a little more intimate. But I don’t know if I ever want to (or can handle) going farther than kissing someone. I definitely have a healthy sex drive, but I don’t know if I can handle being intimate with another person. How do I communicate that? Will daring be much more difficult? Maybe I just haven’t met the right person....

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06 Nov 2019, 8:50 am

If you have a strong sex drive I'd hazard a guess that you haven't met the right person yet. For those of us with sensory sensitivity, the right partners are few and far between.

The best advice I can offer is to look for someone who seems to listen to you, really listen, and who tries to make you feel comfortable.

If a person can treat you like this in non-sexual situations, that behavior will more likely carry over into the sexual realm, and you'll be able to explain to them what you like and what feels bad/weird.

If a person is generally pushing or coercing you outside the bedroom, this attitude will almost certainly carry over into sex as well.

That's what experience has taught me anyway.

Best of luck

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06 Nov 2019, 8:54 am

Talk about everything, including physical intimacy. If the other party knows what's going on with you (and it's the right person), they will understand.

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06 Nov 2019, 9:00 am

Don’t force it. And don’t allow the other person to force it.

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06 Nov 2019, 8:39 pm

tooyoungforthis wrote:

What are you comfortable with? I feel like if you were to rush in, it might be the equivalent of me rushing downstairs and tumbling all the way down. So, I would take your time and find someone that you have built a healthy emotional relationship with because people will come and go in your life. Then you can move on from there and talk to them about that.

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07 Nov 2019, 10:06 am

Use full body latex and Mickey-like gloves.

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07 Nov 2019, 1:39 pm

Establish rules early on in the relationship, once you've discussed Asperger's.

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski might be a good read for you. She explains drive/intimacy and accelerate/breaking very well.

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02 Dec 2019, 9:15 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Use full body latex and Mickey-like gloves.

You mean like in that Naked Gun movie :?:

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