Trying too form a barrier between me and other women?

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23 Nov 2019, 8:10 am

When I hang out with friends at the bar sometimes ‘occasionally’ I notice when I am around a group of girls my ‘male’ friends sort of stand in my way between me and the girls too form a barrier. This happens sometimes when girls are flirting with other guys.

What do you think my male friends standing in my way could mean though?

My friends know I have autism by the way

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24 Nov 2019, 7:27 am

It means stop hanging out in bars. People in bars like to insult those who have “social deficiencies.”

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24 Nov 2019, 8:12 am

I know guys like that. They are ok to hang out with but around females they change. I've known guys to corner the person that I'm having a drink with, while I was at the bar getting drinks. Another guy who would start asking loads of questions and try to hijack tje situation. I didn*t say anything, I was 36 or so. Those frienships didn't last, these friends want a side kick. These days I'm way more outspoken and would just quash all of that with bluntness, the friends that I do still have must accepr that I'm like that, blunt to the point of being rude. Its so much better than brooding over why yoir friend did this or that and somehow keeps cutting you a sh***y dea.
I can't see that you will be detered from hanging out in bars, so good luck.
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24 Nov 2019, 9:55 am

I just don’t see the use in putting up with all that BS.

I would rather just walk on a beach or something.....

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24 Nov 2019, 9:56 am

domineekee wrote:

Sorry you didn’t really answer my question as too why my friends try too form a barrier?

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24 Nov 2019, 7:47 pm

Jamesy wrote:

domineekee wrote:

Sorry you didn’t really answer my question as too why my friends try too form a barrier?

Oops, I just assumed that they are trying to hog any fenale attention. Do you have aby idea or gut fewlibg about ir? I'vw seen lots of guys do this kind of thing and its always been about getting all the attention.

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25 Nov 2019, 10:45 am

Jamesy wrote:

Sorry you didn’t really answer my question as too why my friends try too form a barrier?

These are just a wild guesses, but maybe they think they're (1) Protecting you from heartbreak, (2) Protecting the girls from what they perceive as your 'odd' behavior, or (3) Increasing their chances of meeting girls by decreasing your chances of meeting girls.

That last one needs explanation: They either see you as competition, or as someone so 'odd' that just by being with you their chances of meeting girls are diminished.

I hope it's because you are too much competition for them to deal with.

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25 Nov 2019, 1:11 pm

Fnord wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

Sorry you didn’t really answer my question as too why my friends try too form a barrier?

historically neurotypicals try too prevent our participation in romantic relationships.

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25 Nov 2019, 1:31 pm

It means they’re no different of chimps.

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25 Nov 2019, 2:05 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

It means they’re no different of chimps.

elaborate?

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26 Nov 2019, 7:19 am

That's called Cock-blocking.

Chimps do it too.

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26 Nov 2019, 7:50 am

Jamesy wrote:

historically neurotypicals try too prevent our participation in romantic relationships.

That has been my exprience, even during puberty there were older teens who had a "kill competition in the crib" attitude. More recently friends with terrible track records have said that I'm "not boyfriend material". I had a very happy marriage once, very loving and sweet but blighted by illness and many external pressures, plenty of them caused by interferance.

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26 Nov 2019, 8:15 am

If I was using a calculated approach rather than relying on serendipidy, I'd start attending a Yoga class and an art class, but good luck with your bars.

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26 Nov 2019, 8:25 am

domineekee wrote:

If I was using a calculated approach rather than relying on serendipidy, I'd start attending a Yoga class and an art class, but good luck with your bars.

That's actually an excellent idea!
Especially if you're into art or yoga yourself.

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26 Nov 2019, 8:37 am

Bars are places where base animal instincts rule the day.

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26 Nov 2019, 12:54 pm

Once at the bar this girl i know was grinding against me and her female friend stormed over and said too her "hey get off him"

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