It used to be Gaydar for me but it doesn't seem the same as it used to be.
I had a number of once-off encounters but the only guy I actually became friends with and stayed friends with after a short fling, was a guy I met years ago in a city park when I went to listen to the Salvation Army band play Christmas carols (it's in summer here)! After observing him a while I plucked up the courage to go and talk to him.
I didn't meet my long term BF through any websites or apps. I developed an interest in a mild form of kink (not necessarily sexual in nature) and a certain guy responded. He turned out to have a BF whom he brought along and we hit it off immediately. The BF wasn't really happy in the relationship for a few reasons - one is that this guy smoked while the BF was a non smoker. They broke up and the BF moved in with me. I strongly suspect that my BF is on the spectrum too. He doesn't readily socialize and hated crowds, corporate functions, team building etc, yet loved animals especially horses and dogs, and had great patience with computers and troubleshooting them. having read a lot of his material I'm more than ever convinced he should seek formal diagnosis too (I was diagnosed 2008).
It took me quite a while to make peace with my sexuality as I grew up in a conservative church background. I realized after dating one or two women just once off, that it wasn't for me as I wasn't attracted to them in a physical way.
PM me if you wish as I've had much experience in this. It might be difficult at first, but guys know how other guys think and a gay relationship can be very fulfilling with the right soul mate. And if they're on the spectrum too then it can be great as we know each other's different strengths and weaknesses.
04 Jan 2020, 10:07 pm
