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CrinklyCrustacean
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24 Mar 2011, 4:37 am

I was chatting to one of my friends last week and I realised that there's a very high chance that, although I don't now, one day I will love her. Has anyone else ever felt this way about their friends? :?



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24 Mar 2011, 6:19 am

Precognition?

Tell us if it comes true.


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24 Mar 2011, 5:06 pm

You love her.



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25 Mar 2011, 5:27 am

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You love her.

I admit I don't want to feel this way about her, but I don't see how I can be in love with her already. She isn't the centre of my world and I don't think about her every second of every day. When she talked about having a boyfriend someday I didn't get jealous because somebody else would have her, but rather because she was likely to have a partner before I will. If I truly loved her right now, wouldn't these things be the other way around? :huh:



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25 Mar 2011, 5:43 am

If you're jealous because someone has a boyfriend, you like them, end of story.

If someone is your world and you think of them everyday they are an infatuation and obsession. Not love.



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25 Mar 2011, 5:45 am

hale_bopp wrote:
If you're jealous because someone has a boyfriend, you like them, end of story.

She doesn't have one. Sorry hale, I'm not trying to be a jerk, it just doesn't fit with what I thought love is supposed to be about. I thought you were supposed to just 'know'...and all my friends who've had relationships say it just feels different. Maybe I'm just subconsciously in denial? This is so confusing.



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25 Mar 2011, 6:50 am

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You love her.

I admit I don't want to feel this way about her, but I don't see how I can be in love with her already. She isn't the centre of my world and I don't think about her every second of every day. When she talked about having a boyfriend someday I didn't get jealous because somebody else would have her, but rather because she was likely to have a partner before I will. If I truly loved her right now, wouldn't these things be the other way around? :huh:


Tell us later how you feel once she gets a boyfriend.



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25 Mar 2011, 6:51 am

love develops more over time.



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25 Mar 2011, 10:33 am

emlion wrote:
love develops more over time.


I agree its not something that can just happen



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25 Mar 2011, 10:40 am

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
When she talked about having a boyfriend someday I didn't get jealous because somebody else would have her, but rather because she was likely to have a partner before I will.

This is true love, that you love her so much that you want her to be happy - even if she is with someone else.


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25 Mar 2011, 12:27 pm

mra1200 wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
When she talked about having a boyfriend someday I didn't get jealous because somebody else would have her, but rather because she was likely to have a partner before I will.

This is true love, that you love her so much that you want her to be happy - even if she is with someone else.


Erm, I didn't read it like that. It sounds like he was jealous because she might get a boyfriend first before he gets a girlfriend.

I could be wrong though. :shrug:



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25 Mar 2011, 12:44 pm

Ah, you're right. I read it wrong. Forget what I said earlier.


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25 Mar 2011, 12:50 pm

mra1200 wrote:
Ah, you're right. I read it wrong. Forget what I said earlier.


Why? What did you say earlier?



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25 Mar 2011, 8:32 pm

Esther wrote:
mra1200 wrote:
Ah, you're right. I read it wrong. Forget what I said earlier.


Why? What did you say earlier?

He said this:
mra1200 wrote:
This is true love, that you love her so much that you want her to be happy - even if she is with someone else.



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25 Mar 2011, 8:42 pm

Yes, sorry, I was joking. In response to his request to "forget what I said earlier," I asked him what was it he said. That I have forgotten already.

I should have used ;).



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25 Mar 2011, 8:54 pm

mra1200 wrote:
This is true love, that you love her so much that you want her to be happy - even if she is with someone else.


People always say that, don't they?

It gets on my nerves.

Theoretically, I suppose it's true. But I don't enjoy theoretical love. I enjoy real, impulsive, passionate love. The kind that makes you jealous.

I mean, if the person you loved with all your heart was getting married to someone else, wouldn't you at least try and get her back? Wouldn't you run into the church at the point where the minister is saying "let them speak now, or forever hold their peace" and shout: "No! Stop! I love you more than he does! He's just a sap!"

If she still said no, that would be the time to shrug and move on. But wanting someone to be happy and wanting them to be happy with you are two different things.