I have this horrible anxiety problem when it comes to dating

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I've posted about this before on here but its an ongoing problem and I'm hoping to find some others who've dealt with this before.

I've (23m) been having this strong crush on a girl (24f) I used to work, and we've been talking a lot. But I was on the phone today (not the first time) and it felt super awkward for the first 15-20 minutes or so and now I'm getting some doubts all of a sudden. This always happens, with even the slightest thing. It already happened (to a lighter extent) with this girl, but the doubts went away on their own after a day or two. But now its back 100 times over.

And now I just feel so crushed, its like the excitement and the feelings, and the thoughts about feelings, are just pushed out of me. I haven't felt this way with someone (the bad part) in over a year now, almost 1.5. Theres a term for this - ROCD - and that mixed with anxiety is not a fun situation to be in (it doesn't help that part of ROCD is constantly obsessing over whether or not your actually experiencing ROCD or just in denial).

Anyone got any help or advice for me? Or dealt with a similar situation?

Are you experiencing doubts about wanting to be with her or doubts about her wanting more with you Either way you won't know for sure if you wanna be with her & if things will work out if you don't make a move. I'd say take a chance & make a move & see how things play out. If she's not interested then you don't have to worry about it anymore & no longer crush on her. If she is interested then you two can go on a date or something & you can use that to help decide if you wanna take a chance & go on another one with her or not.