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My aim is to get into a relationship / relationships with women because this is an area of my life that I'm dangerously lacking in. It's bad for my health that I have come this far without being in a real relationship.

It's taken me a while, but I'm finally over the confidence barrier. I'm comfortable being around and talking to woman.

The barrier now is socialising. All of my "socialising" is done online.

I've tried the whole online dating service thing and have found it to be rather unrewarding to say the most.

Does anyone have any suggestions for me to go forward?

What was the specific problem(s) with online dating services?

Could you provide an example of what you would put in your dating service profile?

There's alot of bad apples on the internet for sure. With most people seemingly caught up with trying to be what they see on TV, it's really frustrating to meet anyone who actually wants to live on EARTH.
However, it's not all bad. I find that in my case, I haven't had the guts to jump at the right prospects. I get overwhelmed with a "this is too good to be true and i'm not good enough" feeling and then quit.

You can't really knock the whole internet thing but it seems really difficult sometimes to weed out the fakes and idiots doesn't it? Of course, it's like that nomatter what route you take.

90% of people I meet online are insecure weirdos

never doing that again.

Heheh, good to know what you really think of us, Hale_bopp .

I've haven't done online dating yet. I will in the future. Good luck!

not people from here.. ones i've met in real life.

hehe *hale_bopp runs away*

Whenever something seems to start with someone they always seem to flake away.

I've tried y'know asking for their contact details etc straight away and also prolonging asking & everything in-between but it never seems to go beyond several e-converstions. I've never actually met someone from online except once ages ago.



Alright, I never put my photo down but even then I often have girls approaching me not the other way round because of what I write down. My latest approach would be writing down some realistic things, yet very positive. I don't talk about my phsyical self much - though I may say I'm reasonably good looking or something. Stats are like 5'10" slim-medium build sorta thing.

I also keep it quite brief.

> hale_bopp: What would be the typical way in which guys would approach you online and then you'd (used to!) decide they'd be alright to meet?

I get about 10 of those lets talk on messenger things a day (a bit of an exaduration, but meh) and ignore all of them.

I've added a couple of people that don't sound like idiots.. but ended up blocking them because they were idiots..

There are very few people who i've met in real life from the net that I still talk to.

ugh.. I guess the best way is to not act desperate, I tend to not bother with people that just want a girlfriend.

I really don't know sorry.. there haven't been many instances where I have been impressed with online people in these situations.

The ones I did meet I only did it to shut them up because they wouldn't leave me alone.

Hmm, if you aren't meeting up with someone in good faith it is probably better just to block them?

Here is what I say on one site:

" It's hard to explain myself in a little text box, but I'll give it a try. Some of my interests are: cooking (and eating!), playing bass guitar, and weight-lifting. I'm a business student at UF, and that's pretty cool. I'm working towards a good future and I have a decent job, so what I need now is a healthy relationship with a cute girl! *Now accepting applications*"

I make myself seem fun and one who has a "good future." ( I literally say that ) Then I say who I want to meet, and make a humorous final statement.

In my opinion it is a very cocky approach, but no girls seem to have a problem with it. Straightforwardness IS a male trait.

A picture is worth 1000 words....IF you have one that makes you look good. You don't want 1000 words saying you don't look good!! !

Just a suggestion, but maybe you could find some kind of group that maintains online contact but also meets locally in person from time to time. It might be any kind of special interest group. Get to know the people online, where you feel more comfortable, and then go to one of the face-to-face meetings and meet the people you have been chatting with. The "right person" might not be there, but others that you meet can probably introduce you to their friends, and that will increase the odds of eventually running into someone compatable.