I don't think I will ever find love

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I feel like it is impossible for me to meet somebody to be in a relationship with. I actually want a best friend and partner, but most people my age seem to just want somebody to post pictures with on social media. It is so hard to find somebody who isn't into drinking and drugs, and who actually wants to get to know eachother before physical intimacy.
I feel like it's impossible to meet somebody who I connect with, and we make eachother laugh and actually look out for one another.
Thinking about it gets me depressed, and I feel like I don't belong anywhere.

Is love even real?

love is real but elusive in this world.

Well you ain’t gonna find a girlfriend posting on a forum site. You really don’t want to be a virgin at 30 right? Then you need to come up with a plan on how you’re going to turn your dating life around.

You need to put yourself in an environment where you can meet plenty of women BUT you ain’t going to meet any girls if you go there and you just keep to yourself. You need to go to these clubs with the mindset of I’m going to talk to a number of people and girls and try to build a rapport with them. And then after a couple times of talking, you ask for their number or Snapchat then ask them out on a date.

Just literally keep doing that until one says yes. And if you keep getting a no, it’s usually for one of the following reasons.

1. The way you present yourself is bad, whether that’s physically, socially, or body language.

2. You’re only going for girls out of your league. The hotter a girl is, the more options she’s going to have. Don’t pursue the prettiest girl in the room that every guy is going for, go for the third prettiest.

Also here’s the thing, because of coronavirus going on right now people will eventually get tired of being in their rooms all day and not being able to go out and socialize. So during the fall when this quarantine ends, people will actually want to go out and socialize so it will actually be easier to meet people and meet girls. Take advantage of this.

Here is some hope-I used to feel like you, and my life was pretty much like yours, except I liked drinking and drugs and being around girls that liked those also. I figured I would never have a relationship. I have now been married for 20 years to someone who is really my best friend. If I can get married, anyone can.

^^^except for those of us who can't. those of use who couldn't "be around girls" like you got to enjoy. you are more social than the average person on the spectrum.

Not getting any, are you?

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I do think love exist,however some of us,such as myself are simply not meant to be loved.

Last edited by rick42 on 27 Mar 2020, 8:28 am, edited 1 time in total.

much of what pop culture [mebbe it should be called "pup culture"] terms love is really IMHO counterfeit- a fragile and highly conditional arrangement of limerence at best, childlike infatuation at worst. we use each other, get tired of each other, repeat ad nauseum. human nature leaves much to be desired. why can't more humans be like more animals which mate for life?

Love is a myth created by the media to sell you poorly made junk products. Valentine's day is a classic example of this.

I met both my exes & current girlfriend on online forums. The ladder two were this one. I posted about relationship stuff aLOT & talked about what I wanted in a partner, what I felt I had to offer, & the way I act within a relationship or way I wanted the relationship to be. I had ZERO luck trying to get women offline or on dating sites. I was single & looking for 7/8 years straight & never had a single date.

Love will find you first, you just have to be patient.

No it won't, if you're a straight man you go and find a woman, they are not looking for you.

That's false. This might work for women(even still not very likely),but it doesn't work for men,especially being that men are supposed be initiators. I haven't initiated that many conversations with women in the last couple of years(mainly due to past failures) and were more focused on my hobbies,however that didn't get me any closer to a date."Wait until love finds you" stuff doesn't work,and often lowers the chances of someone ever finding love than already before.

When I was 21, I was working in a workshop for disabled people, a guy saw me across the room & wanted to to talk to me, I kept walking away from him, I was sooo shy. We were in the same room, their were tables, it was after lunch time, I was at a table, my necklace came off, he came over & picked it up, that how we started talking. He became my boyfriend almost two weeks later, awhile later, he told me he love me.

^^^