Virtual Dating in the Time of the Coronavirus

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Many Aspies complain that it is difficult for an Aspie to make romantic connections. Well perhaps this may be the time, the time of a coronavirus pandemic, the time to go on a virtual date. It is an opportunity.

This thought started off as I read a recent article.

A Manhattan matchmaker, Julia Bekker, believes that there may be a frenzy of activity on dating apps, as people feel bored and lonely during self-isolation.

“A lot of people are feeling lonely and wish they had quarantine partners. For some singles, 2020 was the year they were going to take action in their dating lives. And now, for reasons beyond their control, it has come to a halt.”

She added that if you feel ready for a relationship, quarantine may be the perfect time to see who is out there.

---this is a time to make a connection---

Julia recommended FaceTime dates and advised people to make an effort with their appearance, even for a virtual date.

“Show up on FaceTime as you would to any date. Don’t overdo it and wear a tight dress and heels if that is not your usual style, but look presentable," she recommended. “Make the dates fun. You could have a wine and cheese night, and maybe on your second or third date, you could throw some wigs on and make a party of it.”

For the rest of her advice see: Dating during the coronavirus outbreak: NYC matchmaker shares the do's and don'ts

The article has a few other recommendations:

But she cautioned against engaging in virtual sexual activity if you're searching for a relationship.

The New York City Health Department had already issued guidelines for sex during the coronavirus outbreak earlier this week, and advised residents that their best sexual partner was themselves.

The second-best partner was someone in the same household, prompting many New Yorkers to take to social media, advising people to have flings with their roommates. But Bekker warned against this idea, saying that you wouldn’t want to risk a friendship with a roommate for pandemic sex.

[So for all those out there who love new words and phrases, this article describes a new one "pandemic sex".]

The trouble with virtual dating is that you only see what they want you to see. They only see what you want them to see. You remain strangers from each other. It's no better than exchanging telagrams during the time of cholera.

I was interested in someone this semester who seemed interested back. He still follows my social media but doesn't put anything out himself. For all he knows I'm not interested at all even though I'd wanted to get to know him better.

A lot of people dating online rn are probably more interested in some stuff that I'm not interested in.