My biggest personal worry about the coming months

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One thing that has become even more harder than it already was before the pandemic is meeting women. As it stands now, I think it's discouraged in a lot of places to go out on a date with someone in person who you don't live with. But just based off of things I've been told recently, that's likely to change in the next month or 2. After all, it only takes a gathering of 2, not 10 to hang out with one person.

But here's where my anxiety kicks in. I'm sure there's going to be some people who will want to continue to social distance to the extent we're all doing right now even after guidelines in their area become more and more relaxed. They won't even wanna go out on a date with someone. Basically, this will limit the dating pool for a lot of people, including myself.

What do you all think? You think that even after social distancing laws will start to become more relaxed, the affects of the pandemic will continue to be a big obstacle for me in finding someone who is willing to spend time with me in person or not even stay 6 ft apart?

I think it will be a trade-off.

Some people who would normally date won't want to go out.

Some people who wouldn't normally want to date, will be bored and want to start.

It should balance, I hope.

I think people will go on dates but many won't get close enough to kiss or have sex.

My mom says that just because stay-at-home orders have been lifted doesn’t mean the pandemic is over, it just means the hospitals have enough room for you now. There will probably still be plenty of people taking precautions, but then again there will also probably be a significant number of people who have been going stir-crazy and will seize the opportunity to go out as soon as they can. But in any case, this will not last forever. I don’t know how soon it may or may not be, but there will come a time where people are going to public places and having dates just like they used to, I’m as certain as certain can be about that.

Yes your worry sounds justified

However I am more worried about $$$$ and disease than romance

The best way for me to describe what makes this so difficult for me is that I feel like I'm stuck with being the person I've been most of my life and unable to make any effort to be the person I want to be. For a some of you, at least you have a spouse/kids to come home to or really do perfer to be anti social. I've always wanted to be social and especially have a relationship and I don't feel complete when I don't. It's starting to seem like the best I could do for the next several months is to stay 6 ft apart from people if I do hang with them, unless someone can confidently tell me that they believe otherwise. It feels like just another setback to the kind of life I want.

Well it's ok go online and meet someone. Talk for a few weeks and if you both like and trust each other then it should be ok to meet in person. No one is expected to be alone for the next year or two! If you actually see a relationship growing there shouldn't be any problem. if you get to know someone you can learn their habits and see if they are being safe or reckless.
I think you are only putting yourself at risk if you are just randomly dating - not if you're in an actual relationship.

In my life I have been too scared to try to date and also too nurvous about talking to women who have fancied me. However, some times I reached the moint of pushing myself. It is like pushing ones self over a cliff knowing there is a giant sponge at the bottom, but one is reluctant to do it until the danger at the top of the cliff starts to catch up... So the fear of not being able to make the plunge eventually hits and then you go for it. (And often mess up... HAHA!).
I think I have asked about 15 to 20 girls out in my life and only two really ended up in afternoon dates. The times I have properly dated have only been two or three times in my life (Two ladies that I was on hugging and kissing terms in a physical way and there is one beautiful lady now who I hope this will one day be as chatting on the internet is limiting).
My issue was that I don't get hints, so girls have been fancying me for ages and I may only find out long after they gave up trying! Sometimes I have thought people had been interested only to find they were only being nice. It is a very difficult thing to work out. It is why the only times I have actually ever dated, the women have asked me out!

But don't give up hope, and don't worry. The longer it takes for you to go on a date, the more of a catch you will be!

https://spectrumlocalnews.com/nys/centr ... ing-update

Here’s something that makes me feel, um, a lot of negative things. Confusion is certainly one of them because when there’s things like what I love belko said and there’s also things like this article that tell us that meeting up with someone, one person you meet on a dating app is completely out of the question until who knows when.

I was thinking that small groups of friends can come to an agreement that they are the only people they’ll hang out with in person. I only have 1 friend who I hung out with somewhat frequently before the pandemic, so only meeting up with just him and one or two other people would be ok, at least based off of I love belko’s logic.