People assume i am gay

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i am 30 never had a proper girlfriend or sex. When i go out socially people label me as 'gay' and there have been one or 2 occasions were women try and hook me up with other men.

I will admit i dont often talk to/start conversation with women in social settings because fear of rejection.

Do you think me having aspergers has something to do with me being labeld as a homosexual? Because we dont behave in socially normal ways perhaps?

Probably. People think I'm gay, too.

Do you feel sexual attracted to guys? Otherwise no, it's just your behaviour and the same happens to not even few NT guys as well. Don't act to shy. Be nice but never exaggerate or even submissively friendly. Become more demanding then overly friendly asking, e.g. 'just reach the stuff' instead of 'would you be as nice and reach me' .
Don't speak with to high voice just for being friendly. Show more self-confidence instead of a permanent uncertainty. Care about your clothes. Prevent uncertainty in body language. Hit the gym! Don't avoid conflicts to much. Don't prevent eye contact to women and become more open for talking to them. Even if you are gay - a more manly behaviour makes you more attractive for almost any people.

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It's actually a common (false) assumption when the person is forever single; and never seen in relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

That one lady at work said I must be gay since I’ve never had a relationship at 30
She’s now a single pregnant mom at 20ish. Also said women would never date me due to working min wage retail.

How does this lady know you’ve never had a relationship?

And don’t tell me she can see it in your eyes.

The thing to do....is to not advertise your business to every Tom, Jane, and Morgan.

You just don’t tell strangers that....it’s none of their business.

And you have had relationships.

I don’t go around telling people I’ve had 30 lovers. People who aren’t nosy don’t ask these sorts of questions.

People probably think I’m virtually a virgin where I work.

When I was in high school, people expressed shock that I had a girlfriend in my senior year. People didn’t think of me as being capable of such a “feat.”

I once wrote a story about a horny teenager in a place called “Hornytown USA.” That got me bullied for three years.

Don’t tell people your business.

Kraftie, to be fair, it’s quasi impossible to hide celibacy or any relationship status from people you work with 8 hours every day (and sometimes even hang out with) for a long time.

They will know in one way or another; and aspies often don’t know how to lie or to dodge plenty of questions.

What you’re asking of sly; is not possible in the real world, especially among the younger folks.

Maybe not “relationship status”—but you can certainly hide your “virginity” or your “celibacy.”

Sly doesn’t want to be pressured into sex. This can be easily converted to “waiting for the right girl.” Sly is a Christian, and can get away with this.

Virginity can be hidden, not the celibacy tho.

I think people just think of me as too young (I’m 27 but look like I’m about 16), or as “mentally handicapped” to the point where I’m off the market (I’m not, but something about me gives people that impression no matter what I do). They probably assume I’ve never had a romantic relationship (which is true) and never will, and that once I’m an adult (which I already am), I’ll spend my life in some sort of care home and essentially be a child for my whole life.