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xxZeromancerlovexx
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29 Jun 2020, 2:43 pm

I recently came across this article and was honestly a bit shocked:

https://pairedlife.com/relationships/Ho ... ssive-Wife

I may be girly and feminine but I still believe in equal relationships. The husband and wife helping each other. In my kind of relationship we both clean the house. We assist each other in tasks. We get through things together.

Who wants to hear a guy complain about things when the woman can’t complain either?


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29 Jun 2020, 2:56 pm

That’s the way most good relationships are.



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29 Jun 2020, 3:22 pm

"Don't be aggressive, it's not feminine, be passive-aggressive instead" :twisted:


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29 Jun 2020, 3:24 pm

The internet is full of BS, so nothing should shock you there.



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29 Jun 2020, 3:56 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
That’s the way most good relationships are.

Yes. But there are people who dislike a relation relationship on such a basis. If it's up to me I prefere it.

Once there were two exceptional pretty young girls in a club who did immediately reject all guys who did try to approach them in the common nice way. I did notice this and had an idea and did look totally arrogant and top down at both of them like 'I know you and your cheap kind'. One of them began to start to brush against me while they were dancing and sayd "I dislike how you are looking at my girlfriend!" 8O Hey - I did look at her totally the same nasty and arrogant way! :mrgreen: But she was disliking only that I was even looking at her girlfriend at all. :lol: I'm not into such kind of relationship of course. But there was no other way to get them even interested! :twisted:


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29 Jun 2020, 6:28 pm

I've noticed there are a lot of women who claim to be all modern and liberated and up for speaking their mind, but when it comes down to it they'd actually rather be lazy and let the man make all the decisions. And then normally moan about them.

Hooray for people who genuinely are their own boss. I have enough trouble managing my own affairs. If I wanted someone to boss around all day I'd get a dog.



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29 Jun 2020, 7:17 pm

PATRIARCHY. :evil:



edit: I'm not a feminist.



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29 Jun 2020, 7:24 pm

LunaticCentruroides wrote:
PATRIARCHY. :evil:
ALIMONY!! :evil:


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29 Jun 2020, 7:33 pm

xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
I recently came across this article and was honestly a bit shocked:

https://pairedlife.com/relationships/Ho ... ssive-Wife

I may be girly and feminine but I still believe in equal relationships.

The thing is that submissiveness is still very much considered to be a part of femininity. It has long been so.



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29 Jun 2020, 7:35 pm

Sometimes I take the submissive role, and sometimes I take the dominant role. It all works out.


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29 Jun 2020, 8:22 pm

Fnord wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
PATRIARCHY. :evil:
ALIMONY!! :evil:



:lol:



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29 Jun 2020, 10:39 pm

BenderRodriguez wrote:
"Don't be aggressive, it's not feminine, be passive-aggressive instead" :twisted:


Ummm.
Ummm. 8O

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30 Jun 2020, 12:17 am

Redd_Kross wrote:
I've noticed there are a lot of women who claim to be all modern and liberated and up for speaking their mind, but when it comes down to it they'd actually rather be lazy and let the man make all the decisions. And then normally moan about them.


A win-win situation,
For some people. 8)

LunaticCentruroides wrote:
PATRIARCHY. :evil:



edit: I'm not a feminist.


Phew,
That was close. 8O

Great thread,
BTW.
A lot of politically incorrect meat on it. :mrgreen:

Fnord wrote:
Sometimes I take the submissive role, and sometimes I take the dominant role. It all works out.


I choose no roll.

OK,
Maybe a bagel. :mrgreen:



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30 Jun 2020, 12:25 am

starkid wrote:
xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
I recently came across this article and was honestly a bit shocked:

https://pairedlife.com/relationships/Ho ... ssive-Wife

I may be girly and feminine but I still believe in equal relationships.

The thing is that submissiveness is still very much considered to be a part of femininity. It has long been so.


There is an evolutionary rationale behind that,
But I prefer and wait for other males to be deemed sexist first,
To take the heat off me,
Before I elaborate. :mrgreen:

Fnord wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
PATRIARCHY. :evil:
ALIMONY!! :evil:


Silly bugger.
I've always been too smart to get into that sort of situation. 8)



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30 Jun 2020, 1:57 am

BenderRodriguez wrote:
"Don't be aggressive, it's not feminine, be passive-aggressive instead" :twisted:

Unfortunately, I see it all the time among "submissive" types, both genders. When people (honestly, myself included) for any reason notoriously fail to communicate their needs - passive agression, blaming and other toxic behaviors emerge to care for their needs instead.


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30 Jun 2020, 2:08 am

well the man is stronger,
he might wake you up in the night because of strange noise,
so that you can be submissive and go see what's going on

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