Girls losing interest making me feel suicidal

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It seems that every girl who likes me eventually loses interest in me it happened again recently and it’s a vicious cycle that sends me into depression.

Honestly it makes me feel like wanting to commit suicide but do you think girls losing interest is not an important enough reason to want to kill yourself?

I don’t believe it is.

For all the women who stayed interested in me, there were 2 who lost interest.

You have to keep plugging away.

Never kill yourself over anyone. You are number one. Look after yourself.

Get yourself away from toxic people.

Last edited by smudge on 26 Jul 2020, 2:30 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You damn right.....I’m f*****g #1!

I came to that conclusion after feeling suicidal because I lost a girlfriend at age 21.

No one can "make" you feel anything without your cooperation.To maintain their interest, you must first be interesting to them.Girl meets you --> Girl likes you --> Girl finds nothing interesting in you --> Girl loses interest --> You feel depression.Which makes you feel suicidal: The loss of a girlfriend, your lack of interesting qualities, or your depressed nature?Girls losing interest is NEVER a reason -- important or otherwise -- for suicide.  I strongly suggest that you seek immediate counseling from an appropriately-trained and licensed mental-health professional.

Nothing is a good enough reason for suicide

Perhaps it is this sort of emotional volatility than is turning them off?

Your physical appearance isn't the problem.
There is something about your mannerisms/personality that doesn't gell with them.
If it is simply being on the spectrum which is the problem, I guess you are going to find someone more accepting.

The people you connect with, how immature are they? Perhaps the fault is with them?

Do you tell these "girls" that you are an aspie?
Have you pinpointed at what point the relationship goes south?

I haven’t told them an aspire but some of my friends in the group have informed them that I am on the spectrum.

This is a harsh statement, but considering suicide, for this reason, lacks character, imo.
Having a terminal medical condition and having constant extreme pain, is a better reason to think in that direction.
(And no, I am not referring to myself, here.)

I think a greater perspective is needed here.

You need better "friends".

If the women are rejecting you because you are on the spectrum, it is harsh, but it is their choice.
Autism isn't an easy condition/complication for anyone.

If they could get to know you better, perhaps it wouldn't be an issue.

When you first go out with them, are they aware you are on the spectrum or do you think they lose interest once they have been told by your "friends"?

If you're actively looking for reasons to kill yourself, then you just have more pressing underlying issues to focus on. It's a terrible idea to jump into the dating game when you're in a weak state of mind. I have no intention of sounding harsh, but you will end up hurting yourself more and possibly hurt the people you interact with. If you're this concerned over "girls losing interest", I can't f*****g imagine how it'll be when you end up dependent on some woman.

Clear your head, rationalize, and drop out of the race. You need to help yourself before you put your mental health under anymore duress.

When you tell me that every girl loses interest in you, I know that you are doing things all wrong. I suspect you use dating and all that stuff and then get together with NTs, which typically generates that kind of stuff.

I don't know if any girl that I connected with in the ND-way ever lost interest. One broke up because of her mother, but I suspect she has changed her mind now a few decennia later. The others I just lost contact with because of life changes, and there really was no "end" to it.

As usual, Fnord lays out all the stuff to avoid.

Don't buy that "be interesting stuff", as relationships should not be like friendships with benefits or business transactions.

My marriage has very important "friendship" and "being interesting" dimensions.
If you don't believe in this philosophy, what would you propose instead?

It's all ok to be friends and interesting to each other AFTER you have formed a connection, but not before. It gets all wrong when you fake compliments and/or interest just to get laid or get a date.

Besides, my friendships are a bit volatile, and so are my interests, and so I cannot build a long term relationship on those. A strong connection can motivate me to do all kinds of strange stuff, while a friendship or a marriage contract cannot.

But in our case, friendship and finding each other interesting started a year before any dating...