HFA males: ever been confronted by a "female protector"?

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My fellow ASD/HFA brethren...
Have you ever had a situation where you were pursuing a female interest, and - (perhaps while trying to decipher ambiguous signs of interest) - some a-hole male who was in "her circle" in some way (e.g. friend, ex, or boyfriend of her girlfriend, whatever) confronted you with threats?

I can't recall it happening to me - but later on post-diagnosis in my late 20s, I remember going to a party with this girl and her ex was there, and he kept looking at me with the "kill look", but never confronted me. I detached myself from that after, as she was really shallow, ignorant, and kinda blah on the inside and out.

There may very well have been other times where I was on a date and got the nasty glare from other unknown males in a public place if they picked up some "weird vibes" on me, but fortunately it didn't escalate into Hollywood-esque douchebaggery i.e. where a meathead bully pours beer on me while his entourage laughs, nothing like that.
But I digress...that's not protection behaviour...

What I find really repugnant and hypocritical about these toxic alpha-male douche types is that they wouldn't hesitate to act abusively towards a female, or take "no" for an answer, yet they're lecturing you on being a "creepy stalker" because of some silly archetype they conjured up in their narrow little minds.

I think that all sounds like a leap. How would you know what they were thinking? In the case of the ex-bf, he probably didn't like you inherently because you were with his ex.

I've never gotten nasty glares for being with my wife in public. I am usually the one giving out the judgmental/kill looks. Its my resting face. I'm working on it.

Nope not me , but I have been used to make a ex jealous , he may of wanted to kill me but he stood no chance

i'm confused.
Nothing like what you describe happened to you.
Where are you getting the "lecturing you for being a creepy stalker"?
Besides assumptions and conjecture?