Trying to be kind to women

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Outsider85
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17 Aug 2020, 4:41 pm

Last year I went to a Renaissance Faire. There were women who were dancing on a tiny stage, just spinning and flipping the skirt of their dresses. I took their pictures and the asked if I could kiss their hands out of chivalry. Permission was granted. Did the same to “the lady of chivalry” she told me I was well. I also asked a woman who was dressed up as Poison Ivy, she said sure.

Did I over do it?

I complimented a woman on her dress yesterday she said thank you. Then I told her she looked radiant. Did I over do that situation?

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17 Aug 2020, 5:06 pm

Did you read my thread that I asked you to read?

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17 Aug 2020, 5:10 pm

Gallantly kissing a preferred hand is fine at a Renaissance Fair.

Telling a woman you like her dress is fine.

Radiant is over the top.

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17 Aug 2020, 6:01 pm

Ugh... Leave it to this forum to enlighten us on the million & one wrong ways to be kind. :roll:

It's a damn shame IMO how we expect ourselves to put on acts all the time to blend in, just as much as everyone else expects it.

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17 Aug 2020, 6:38 pm

I’ll remember to cut down on radiant, unless she is a friend of mine.

I always asked before pecking the hands of the women.

No, I have not read it yet.

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18 Aug 2020, 5:54 am

cberg wrote:

Ugh... Leave it to this forum to enlighten us on the million & one wrong ways to be kind. :roll:

It's a damn shame IMO how we expect ourselves to put on acts all the time to blend in, just as much as everyone else expects it.

Agreed. I have a lot more respect for people that are truly kind than for those that feel they must show off in order to get laid.

And being natural triumphs fake kindness every time..

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18 Aug 2020, 6:08 am

rdos wrote:

cberg wrote:

Ugh... Leave it to this forum to enlighten us on the million & one wrong ways to be kind. :roll:

It's a damn shame IMO how we expect ourselves to put on acts all the time to blend in, just as much as everyone else expects it.

Agreed. I have a lot more respect for people that are truly kind than for those that feel they must show off in order to get laid.

And being natural triumphs fake kindness every time..

Wot's wrong with a bit of flirtation? :scratch:

BTW,
May I kiss *YOUR* hand, big boy? :mrgreen:

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18 Aug 2020, 6:15 am

What's wrong with radiant? Sure it's over the top compared to most but it's hardly a creepy thing to say.

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18 Aug 2020, 6:21 am

KT67 wrote:

What's wrong with radiant? Sure it's over the top compared to most but it's hardly a creepy thing to say.

It is melodramatic, that is all.

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18 Aug 2020, 7:33 am

Pepe wrote:

rdos wrote:

cberg wrote:

Ugh... Leave it to this forum to enlighten us on the million & one wrong ways to be kind. :roll:

It's a damn shame IMO how we expect ourselves to put on acts all the time to blend in, just as much as everyone else expects it.

Agreed. I have a lot more respect for people that are truly kind than for those that feel they must show off in order to get laid.

And being natural triumphs fake kindness every time..

Wot's wrong with a bit of flirtation? :scratch:

I don't count fake behavior as true flirtation. :mrgreen:

Pepe wrote:

BTW,
May I kiss *YOUR* hand, big boy? :mrgreen:

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18 Aug 2020, 8:27 am

First time I said radiant to a woman was a coworker. I told her she looked more radiant than ever. She gave me a curtsy when I said radiant. Then she said I wasn’t looking bad either.

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18 Aug 2020, 8:33 am

Outsider85 wrote:

First time I said radiant to a woman was a coworker. I told her she looked more radiant than ever. She gave me a curtsy when I said radiant. Then she said I wasn’t looking bad either.

That's a great thing to say! It's not sexual and we all want to shine. You got a good result too

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18 Aug 2020, 8:55 am

"I am wearing sunglasses because you are so radiant"

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18 Aug 2020, 9:06 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

"I am wearing sunglasses because you are so radiant"

That's my boy

Sorry I gave you a headache and sunstroke.
You've got the gift of the gab boo, you've got the gift.

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18 Aug 2020, 9:08 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

"I am wearing sunglasses because you are so radiant"

I almost read it as radioactive. :mrgreen:

Anyway, by complimenting looks you send the message that you care a lot about looks, and so you are one of those creepy types. :mrgreen:

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18 Aug 2020, 9:13 am

I care about looks. I am not creepy.

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