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Oathdagger96
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08 Jan 2021, 8:02 pm

So I was reflecting on previous relationships I’ve had and looking at how I handled them and how my autism affects my love life. I came to the realization that “normal” relationships don’t work for me. When I date NTs, I feel they just don’t understand why I need my alone time and absorb myself in my interests. I can’t even stand the idea of sleeping in the same bed with someone. They take it personally and feel as if I don’t want to spend time with them or I don’t love them. Which is absolutely not true, I just need time alone because that’s how my brain functions. Have you guys ever felt this way? Do you have or already have an unconventional relationship?



kraftiekortie
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09 Jan 2021, 8:46 am

Yep. I feel exactly the same way you feel.

Though I usually don’t mind sharing a bed with my wife.



Mona Pereth
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11 Jan 2021, 2:35 am

Oathdagger96 wrote:
Do you have or already have an unconventional relationship?

All of my relationships, including my current one, have been unconventional in one way or another.


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11 Jan 2021, 2:39 am

Oathdagger96 wrote:
So I was reflecting on previous relationships I’ve had and looking at how I handled them and how my autism affects my love life. I came to the realization that “normal” relationships don’t work for me. When I date NTs, I feel they just don’t understand why I need my alone time and absorb myself in my interests. I can’t even stand the idea of sleeping in the same bed with someone. They take it personally and feel as if I don’t want to spend time with them or I don’t love them. Which is absolutely not true, I just need time alone because that’s how my brain functions. Have you guys ever felt this way? Do you have or already have an unconventional relationship?


Do you want some advice?