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06 Sep 2020, 4:30 pm

So ok, fair enough. What I miss though is the friendship part of things because it is not often I connect with people in this way. I mean... Put it this way. I find few people in my life I call friends. Most are what I call "People I know" who do not want to keep in touch, but if we meet we say hello.

I tend to isolate myself in life so I am not a pain to anyone. I do not like it when people think "Oh no. Not him again!" and I would rather hurt myself then be a pain to others.

I know I am not a perfect person, but I am scared to consider dating incase things don't work and I loose a friend? Because ones date is also ones best friend and it hurts more to loose a best friend then loose a date.


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06 Sep 2020, 4:41 pm

Ones date is not ones best friend. I've made the same error in reasoning myself. Now, someone you date might eventually become your partner, your mate, your other half and all the rest of it. But dating, and particularly initial dating, is a vetting process and a trial run for compatibility. Success is unlikely, but worth the attempt. However, trying too hard and attaching too much hope to any one attempt is an active detriment abd will nake the aftermath that much worse.

My advice? Give it a shot, but keep it simple and lighthearted as best you can.


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06 Sep 2020, 5:45 pm

Wolfram87 wrote:
Ones date is not ones best friend. I've made the same error in reasoning myself. Now, someone you date might eventually become your partner, your mate, your other half and all the rest of it. But dating, and particularly initial dating, is a vetting process and a trial run for compatibility. Success is unlikely, but worth the attempt. However, trying too hard and attaching too much hope to any one attempt is an active detriment abd will nake the aftermath that much worse.

My advice? Give it a shot, but keep it simple and lighthearted as best you can.


Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:



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06 Sep 2020, 11:55 pm

Pepe wrote:
Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:


Thank you.

And I didn't. I turned 33 this August.


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07 Sep 2020, 1:54 am

Wolfram87 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:


Thank you.

And I didn't. I turned 33 this August.


Well, that explains that. :mrgreen:



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07 Sep 2020, 4:00 am

Sometimes I think "I am not good enough. There are better more suitable men then I am". But though there are plenty, then I think "Does the lady want them or me? And how can I tell?" (Somehow I often struggle to tell if a lady is attracted to me (Flirting) or just being nice to me. So many times my Mum has said "It was obvious... She couldn't have made it any more obvious!")
It is a funny old world isn't it?


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07 Sep 2020, 4:32 am

[quote="Mountain Goat"]Sometimes I think "I am not good enough. There are better more suitable men then I am". But though there are plenty, then I think "Does the lady want them or me? And how can I tell?" (Somehow I often struggle to tell if a lady is attracted to me (Flirting) or just being nice to me. So many times my Mum has said "It was obvious... She couldn't have made it any more obvious!")
It is a funny old world isn't it?[/quote]

Be like the little engine that could. 8)



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07 Sep 2020, 4:36 am

Wolfram87 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:


Thank you.

And I didn't. I turned 33 this August.


Old man :lol:



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07 Sep 2020, 4:45 am

Thanks, but it says "This video is not available".

I do remember the story as it was also written in a similar way in one of the "Thomas And Friends" books.


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07 Sep 2020, 5:12 am

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Thanks, but it says "This video is not available".

I do remember the story as it was also written in a similar way in one of the "Thomas And Friends" books.


When it says "Not available", click on the link that will send you to youtube. 8)
I had to do it too. ;)



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07 Sep 2020, 5:22 am

cyberdad wrote:
Wolfram87 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:


Thank you.

And I didn't. I turned 33 this August.


Old man :lol:


Kick me while I'm down, why don't you?

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07 Sep 2020, 5:36 am

Wolfram87 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Wolfram87 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:


Thank you.

And I didn't. I turned 33 this August.


Old man :lol:


Kick me while I'm down, why don't you?

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When you are over 30, you really are over the hill.
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07 Sep 2020, 2:19 pm

Wolfram87 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Wolfram87 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Well said.
How did you become so insightful, in all areas, in only 32 years of this misbegotten life system? :chin:


Thank you.

And I didn't. I turned 33 this August.


Old man :lol:


Kick me while I'm down, why don't you?

...

:lol:


**Kicking him while he's on ground** OLD! .... OLD!



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07 Sep 2020, 2:25 pm

Help help, I'm being oppressed!


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07 Sep 2020, 3:33 pm

Welcome to the club .....

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07 Sep 2020, 4:53 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Sometimes I think "I am not good enough. There are better more suitable men then I am". But though there are plenty, then I think "Does the lady want them or me? And how can I tell?" (Somehow I often struggle to tell if a lady is attracted to me (Flirting) or just being nice to me. So many times my Mum has said "It was obvious... She couldn't have made it any more obvious!")
It is a funny old world isn't it?


I think it helps to look at it as a matter of personal preference, rather than "better" or "worse."

For instance, if you met a lady who enjoyed model building, from her perspective you would be preferable to men who don't share that interest.


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